Men Telling Women What To Do

Last week over coffee a friend told me this story....more

Is Feminism Different after Sandberg's Lean In?

Last weekend found me in the middle of dozens of feminist scholars happily chewing over such questions as:...more

Moms Telling the Truth in Public

Shame has kept people quiet about painful, personal, or inconvenient truths since … well, forever.  Mom-shaming is a particular example, because cultural expectations of motherhood are so high, women fiercely love their children and we have traditionally accepted responsibility for so many social problems and other undesirable outcomes.  Mom-judging and mom-shaming are two sides of the same coin, as both arise from deep-seated feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and insecurity.  Truth be told, often the judging and the shame are happening simultaneously, by and to t...more

Giving Up the Mommy Guilt

It has not escaped my notice that women with children often express regret about their performance as mothers. I remember coming back from my own (partially paid) maternity leave, and for two months, driving to drop off and pick up at two different day care centers, doing my work, running the household, rocking the baby, mothering the four-year-old, and feeling like a total failure at everything I did. (Yes, I had a husband at home, but he left early for his office, and came home late, getting in his hours and pushing for professional advancement.) ...more
Thank you for putting words to how I feel right now...! I am the mother of four little boys - ...more

Parenthood is Pricey

No news emerging from under the dome of the US Capitol these days, as Congress is on recess and the men and women you elected are in their home districts.  However, other branches of government continue to churn, and the latest Department of Agriculture numbers on the cost of raising a child are a reminder that becoming a parent is the biggest economic decision many of us will ever make....more

Parenthood is Pricey

No news emerging from under the dome of the US Capitol these days, as Congress is on recess and the men and women you elected are in their home districts.  However, other branches of government continue to churn, and the latest Department of Agriculture numbers on the cost of raising a child are a reminder that becoming a parent is the biggest economic decision many of us will ever make....more

When Will the Senate Get Serious About Paid Family Leave?

Before fleeing town for their five week vacation, a handful of Senators paid a little attention to the startling fact that most U.S. women cannot count on single day of paid leave when they have a baby. Practically all other countries allow women several months to recover from childbirth before returning to work and provide some income replacement during this time as well. Many countries also afford new fathers paid leave too. Image Credit: Cliff1066 via Flickr...more
It's high time we caught up to the rest of the world in acknowledging family structures have ...more

Congress Is Not Just For Old White Men - Moms Can Serve Too

The recent primary election brought the usual flood of campaign literature pouring through my letter slot. I had nearly tossed the pile into the recycling bin when I noticed something AMAZING.There was a large color photo of a Hispanic woman holding two tiny kids. The text began “As a mother of two children…” and was an endorsement for quality pre-K. It hit me – SHE was the candidate, and she was claiming her identity as a mother in her campaign for the state legislature. Had I ever seen such a thing before? Had it ever HAPPENED before?...more
We need more women--mothers, grandmothers, lesbians, singles, aunts, wives, daughters, sisters. ...more

Interview with Anea Bogue, Author of 9 Ways We're Screwing Up Our Girls....And How We Can Stop

Last week I posted the first half of my interview with Anea Bogue, the author of a fabulous book, 9 Ways We're Screwing Up Our Girls and How We Can Stop.  This week I'm so pleased to bring you the remainder of our conversation.  Check out the book when you've finished - it's an easy read, and you will find yourself in the pages, as well as heaps of information to use in your mothering of...more

@White House Working Families Summit

The White House Working Families Summit was the biggest thing to happen here in ages for the circle of women’s rights advocates in which I orbit.   So many things about it were right – a sense of jubilation, a racially and ethnically diverse group of attendees, a variety of ages, income levels, and a good number of men.  The big guns came out, with the President and Mrs. Obama earning lots of whoops and applause.  Both Bidens were there, along with Gloria Steinem looking ageless, Debra Lee of BET, and MIkaBrzesinski of MSNBC.  This was a BFD....more