Adoptive community, you’re on notice.

I’ve gotta be honest, this is a sad post to write, but it has to be said. The least supportive people in our lives are those in the adoptive community. While strangers in restaurants and checkers at the grocery store tell us how beautiful our daughter is, the adoptive community warns us that she will struggle as a black child in a white family, that we’re already making mistakes and injuring her self-worth as a person of color ....more

Drips and Storms

A while back I wrote about the “drip, drip, drip of unmet expectations” on this adoption expedition. I have tried to come up with other metaphors but have roundly failed – the only way to describe the utter spareness and ache of our long wait of adoption is by the image of water dripping on a rock: endless, cold, damp, incessant. Yet, despite that dreary picture, it’s not all there is, because all around the rock life is blooming – there’s a fern bending over the beleaguered stone, there are flowers poking up beside, there’s moss and trees and lovely sounds and smells all around – the water that drips with such depressing insistence brings life and hope and beauty in its wake ....more

Life Matters

I’m heartbroken today, y’all. I’m sick to my stomach. Here’s why, in bullet-point fashion: I’m seeing tirade after tirade about how “Black Lives Matter” is.. ....more

Introducing our daughter, Adelay Joy

Y’all – we have a baby girl. Just let that sink in for a minute. I very publicly expressed my impatience and frustration right here ....more

A Tale of Two Flags

After the horrific church shooting in Charleston, South Carolina, we all had a lump in our throats. This was unspeakable, horrific – we had just seen evil unmasked and it made us all shudder.... [[ This is a content summary only ....more

Feminism and Caitlyn Jenner

The internet is awash in ooohs and ahhhhs over the debut of “Caitlyn”, Bruce Jenner’s new female alter-ego. “She looks beautiful,” we say. “How inspiring,”.. ....more

Not Everything is Political, Sometimes Religious Beliefs are Just Personal

I started my blog, The Cute Conservative, in order to create a place where I could talk about politics and not offend the readers of my “normal” blog – but in the years that I’ve been blogging, I’ve seen a strange shift. These days, everything is political, or has a political angle....more
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Obeying the Long Way

Eugene Peterson wrote a book called “The Long Obedience in the Same Direction”. While I’ve never read it, I admire him and I’ve always loved that title. So often we want the stories about calling and purpose but we are not as moved by the long trudge we must make in order to be truly called ....more

Not everything is political

I started this blog in order to create a place where I could talk about politics and not offend the readers of my “normal” blog – but in the years that I’ve been blogging,... [[ This is a content summary only. Visit my website for full links, other content, and more! ...more

Riding test

The other day, I had to perform a riding test at my new barn. Now, let me tell you right up front: I am not a sophisticated rider, y’all. I learned to ride from scruffy, fearless cowboys who told me encouraging things like, “don’t come off” and “that horse knows more cow than you do, darlin’, so let ‘im loose” ....more