Naked Girl in a Dress

My name is Kelly and I live outside of DC with my two kids. I am a mom, blogger, photographer, baseball fanatic, triathlete and, unfortunately, a part-time government contractor (kidding: love my paying job!). In 2008 I separated from my husband and I am now experiencing life as a single mom. It has been a sad, fun, exciting, crazy time. Of course I can say that now because I have successfully completed the mandatory time served crying on my sofa for 12 months.

Adjusting to my new life has meant learning to successfully complete house repairs (paper clips are very good to keep in your tool box!), parent solo, figure out 100-piece “assembly required” gifts for kids, haul home Christmas trees bigger than me, date, and more. It has been one big adventure. Now that the sofa time has been completed, I am excited to have started anew with two great kids (Princess Daisy is 10 and Monkey is 7) by my side, often serving as my sage advisors and inspiration.

Which brings me to the topic of my blog name….

At the age of 3 my daughter gave me what later would become my mantra while serving time on the sofa. We were at a park and my daughter was exhilarated swinging up towards the sky on a particularly beautiful day (blue sky, no DC humidity yet). She screamed, “Mommy, I am a naked girl in a dress!” She felt so free and happy and completely present in the moment. She had no concerns in her little 3 year-old life. I remember being completely caught up with her in that joy.

In addition to spending time soul-searching as a result of the separation, I was also 4 months shy of my 40th birthday when we split. This momentous event gave me even more to contemplate. Was the first 40 a dress rehearsal? Have I really hit mid-life? What was I going to do now that I was divorcing–both professionally and personally? During those early months of separation, I was constantly asked by my friends:

“What are you going to do?”

I wasn’t really sure WHAT I was going to do, but I had a single response to the question:

I am going to be happy.

 

 

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