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Anissa Mayhew, 36, was a wild game hunter in the wilds of the jungle.  When she got bored she became an international spy. Then to top it all...
 
 
 
 

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Showering After a Stroke: Naked Hopping, Not As Exciting As It Sounds

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Water coming from showerhead

I haven’t been inside my shower since November 2009. Today I sat outside the door and looked in.

Shampoo was still in the same place. So was the razor for shaving your chin (or legs, depending who you are). Ready for use was the bath soap, the adult kind, not the kid’s.

No one would ever know that it’s a place full of fears.

What if I fall?

What if I slip?

What if it causes me more pain in my eye?

Perspective changes when you only have one arm to work with.

Do I choose to wash myself? Or do I hold myself up? How do I pull myself in? Is there a way to pull yourself out?

I dare you to get naked (heh), tie one arm where you can’t use it, then wash your hair. Did I tell you to hop on one foot?

You have to think of all of these things, and you’ll still forget now and then. But there is one thing you never have, the thing you can’t forget, what you were SO used to that you have to get over ... .

Privacy.

Someone will always have to be there. You can never be alone.

Even if you wanted.

Anissa Mayhew blogs at Free Anissa.

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Pammer 5 pts

After an excruciating back injury I was pretty helpless for a few months. Even the little things were impossible and frustrating. Showering and other lovely bathroom needs were the top of the list.

Privacy and dignity -- they are hard to put aside.

BTW, you're fantastically hysterical - I hope to meet you at BlogHer '10. It'd be an honor. (I only hope my rack is worthy.)

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Liz Henry 5 pts

They should totally make shower stalls out of that recycled rubber stuff under play structures.

I'd like a sort of padded hot tub, and when I heaved myself out of it, the rest of the room would be made of warm towels.

Privacy is funny isn't it? And the line of having to ask for help, or needing help, and treasuring when there is some way to do something without it.

It is also very interesting how geography changes. A "normal" landscape becomes so different when your ability level changes. Distances stretch and contract. Experiences like that made me think a lot about the nature of perception and reality.

Cheers Anissa!!!

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threeundertwo 5 pts

I know exactly what you mean, although I was only unable to shower for a few weeks after arthroscopic hip surgery. I used a cheap plastic patio chair in the shower for a long time. It wasn't sexy, but it worked. Baby steps.

ShellyPlus4 5 pts

Hugs! Keep your head up. You will get there. Just keep envisioning your first shower alone. It will happen.

Check out FODAC. They will donate items to your family for use as long as you need them. They have shower chairs etc. We have gotten wheelchairs,hospital beds, walkers, etc.

Here is the website http://www.fodac.org/

Shelly

MonkeeMama 5 pts

Have you had any adaptations done to your shower? I know that a shower chair is great as well as added handles.

Soon you will be showering by yourself again. It reminds me of trying to be modest when I had my first child, the nurse told me modesty goes out the window here, it kind of took a while to get it back too. Especially since I had to whip out the breast everywhere. :)

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Thanks for sharing this Anissa...You are such a brave woman.

The one thing I would say you should do before you get in the shower...is get a shower chair. Standing up in a hot shower can make you dizzy and light-headed very suddenly.

I wish you all the best in your recovery and moving forward.

Best,
Catherine

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