Nesting

It's hard to believe that I have crossed the top of the mountain with this pregnancy, and at 21 weeks, I am officially descending! I will admit that things did drag on for the first trimester. After all, it's hard for time to fly when you can barley keep your eyes open and your head off a pillow long enough to accomplish life's simplest tasks. Things got a little scarey there for a while, and my house was starting to resemble an episode of hoarders. Well it seemed that bad in my mind anyway, but Gabe was always so gracious to remind me that in his occupation he sees homes everyday that are far more "cluttered" (or just plain disgusting) than ours has ever been on its worst day. Thanks babe. Anyway, I am so glad this second trimester has met me with lots of energy.

The subject of the second trimester brings me to the thought for this blog post: Nesting. The reason this has become a bit of an issue with me is because I have found that when I express that I am nesting to other women, it becomes an issue with them. I know, really?  Almost as though I have offended them. I actually researched the topic after getting a few surprising remarks from other women like, "Oh, it's way too early to be nesting" and "You aren't nesting yet". Can I just say right here that I love how open other women are about expressing their opinions on how I "should" feel (and how I should look for that matter) at every stage of my pregnancy.

Okay, so anyway I've always thought of nesting as the time when you are nearing the last couple weeks of pregnancy and you just have that strong desire to make sure all your "t's" are crossed and your "i's" are dotted. I do think that is true for some women, and I would probably describe my nesting period with Brodey as such. But they say each pregnancy is different and this pregnancy will always be marked (in my mind) by my overwhelming desire to paint, rearrange, clean, organize, and install. From furniture, to walls and the trim throughout our entire house, you name it, and I want to paint it. We are definitely keeping the local hardware store in business. In fact, when I walked in there this morning I was greeted with "back for more paint?" - LOL you betchya! This time, it was actually stain for a hand-me-down bed that I got for Brodey. I am going to stain it so that it matches the crib and changing table. This is just one of many projects that I have on my to-do list. Between these new projects that usually take up a whole weekend, and the cleaning and organizing, I am keeping very busy. 

At first I just thought that this desire was coming from my new found energy and I was trying to overcompensate for the three months that my house was less than spotless; but this feeling hasn't gone away with just one good scrub through each room. I think that part of me feels like now is the time to get this stuff done because I was on bed-rest for the last couple months of my pregnancy with Brodey and prior to that, things had been going well. I have an underlying fear that it will happen again so I need to get these big projects out of the way. And just in case you are thinking that I am crazy for describing my behavior as nesting, I want you to know that I am not. After reading many articles on nesting, I thought I would share one with you that sums it all up and describes me to a "T":

The nesting instinct usually sets in around the fifth month of your pregnancy (I'm not too far from that). Now some may not know what the "nesting instinct" is (really?). This is basically the uncontrollable urge to clean your house, and generally go crazy (me) doing all sorts of things that will prepare the 'nest' for the new member of the family. This is a primal instinct and all the females of almost every species in the world will go through this same instinct in one way or another. It is also an old wives tale that this is one of the signs that labor is going to set in shortly. Females of the animal kingdom are all equipped with this same need. It is a primal instinct. Just as you see birds making their nests, mothers-to-be do exactly the same thing. The act of nesting puts you in control and gives a sense of accomplishment toward birth. You may become a homebody and want to retreat into the comfort of home and familiar company, like a brooding hen.

Nesting brings about some unique and seemingly irrational behaviors (me) in pregnant women and all of them experience it differently. Women have reported throwing away perfectly good sheets and towels because they felt the strong need to have "brand new, clean" sheets and towels in their home. They have also reported doing things like taking apart the knobs on kitchen cupboards, just so they could disinfect the screws attached to the knobs. Women have discussed taking on cleaning their entire house, armed with a toothbrush. There seems to be no end to the lengths a nesting mother will go to prepare for her upcoming arrival.

(source: http://www.pregnancy-calendars.net)

So there you have it.Whew! I feel better! I needed to get that off my chest.

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