Divorce, Families and Our Kids' New Normal
[Editor's Note: When I started to freak out about the not-so-normal makeup of our family as our oldest son started Kindergarten, many friends chimed in with the sentiment that Lee writes about at The Post-Divorce Chronicles. There is a new normal, and that "normal" is that many families are different. Divorce, stepfamilies and all that comes between are normal for our kids. Do you see a lot of divorce in your kids' classes? -Jenna]
When I look around at the parents in my daughter’s class, I think to myself, “This is the new normal.” Some people might think of it as the old normal, but the new normal is divorced, remarried, steps everywhere and mother’s and father’s standing on opposite sides of the room pretending as if they don’t know each other.
I am a part of the new normal. My children have two step parents and several step siblings as well as half siblings. They shuttle back and forth between homes and lives and different sets of values and cultures and through it all still seem to be able to smile and laugh. I don’t know if I could do what they have to do, but for them, this new normal is just…normal.