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Be the change you want to see.
So what is stopping us from ending the gruesome wars, world hunger and pollution?
Marianne Williamson keeps saying we are not trying hard enough to be the change that we seek.
I agree and I would like to add that we actually haven't a clue how to be the change that we want to see and that we are not looking hard enough either.
Deep in my heart I know that I am extremely ineffective to create the change that I seek.
Because to create it I need to learn a very basic life skill and that is to get on with people in my own little world in a way that eliminates hunger, pollutions and fights in my own world.
We are the problem; is my own little world not a reflection of the bigger world?
I fight, I too am hungry for love and attention and we all pollute each others mental state.
To make my point let me tell you about my training and experience with people.
I am told that I am unique and I can create whatever I want.
Well, from a young age and into adulthood, I never experienced any of that uniqueness.
I wanted to stay home and be taught by my mother whom I trusted and knew.
Instead I was taken to a frightening institution called school that was filled with a whole lot of children who looked hostile and they scared the hell out of me.
I was told not to be unfriendly and work alongside a classmate whom I did not like as she was mean to me behind the teacher's back.
And when I drew something that I liked, I was told it was wrong as it did not fit the brief.
Yes I WAS unique, but not for long.
Yes I WAS authentic and honest, but not for long.
Yes I HAD a choice of whom I could hang out with, but not for long.
My uniqueness, authenticity and honesty had no chance of survival.
The rot set in very quickly.
Let's fast forward a few years.
With having learned to look out for number one, having been molded into a one size fits all; I took a self development course.
Again I am told that I am unique, special and should strive for authenticity and passion.
Is that so?
I went to a job interview.
There I was asked dumb questions that everybody in their right mind knows I cannot answer truthfully if I want to get the job.
I also know that I cannot ask honest questions either if I want to be employed.
I cannot authentically ask to meet my colleagues to find out if I actually could work with them.
I cannot have an honest conversation with the manager to find out how he values his staff.
What I think, feel and want is of no importance, it is all about them.
How often have I been considered as equal, unique, special and powerful when in a job interview?
How often is an interview a pleasant experience with the intention to make everybody fly?
Who am I kidding?
Then when I started the job, did I meet great people all eager to share, teach and grow together or did I enter a war zone full of competitors, adversaries and withholders of intellectual property?
While I might not live in a war torn country, I have not experienced much peace either, have I?
Although I might not be hungry for food, I am starving for love and generous sharing, aren't I?
As much as I would love to stop the mental pollution of deceit, false promises and denial, I am too scared to do transparency, authenticity and in-integrity behavior on my own.
My only solace was that after my work day I could go home, home sweet home, to where things were good with the person I chose to live with.
Yeah right!
My interview and induction period with the person I lived with was not that crash hot either.
As a result I did not choose the right person and I didn't powerfully set up our playing together either.
There was plenty of evidence of that.
At home I used to fight over the dishes, whose turn it was to cook and our not keeping our
