No Elder Pregnancy For Me
By nichelle newsletter on December 30, 2007
Even though I would think of cute names for babies whenever I would fantasize about a settling down with a boyfriend, I have known for over a decade that I don't want to have children. Being a mom requires so much dedication, time, money, discipline and unselfishness. I don't have it in me. I am the oldest of three daughters and I have felt the pressure to settle down, get married and have kids. However, I told my family long ago that I may not want to have kids. I may have said it initially to be spiteful because my parents would getting on my nerves, but now I am absolutely sure of my decision to not have kids. Thank God because at 37, it's kinda too late. Recently, I heard the term "elder pregnancy" from my younger sister who is a doctor. I always thought risky pregnancies were for women 40 and over, but that's not true. The mother has way more risks during pregnancy with infertility, miscarriages, and pregnancy-related sickness. Plus, the babies are more likely to be in Neo-Natal when they are first born. Hearing all this makes me relieved that I don't want to have kids.
However, I have some friends that are waiting for the right man, right job, or right time to have a kid. As much I am open-minded about having a child wedlock, it seemed to be better to have two parents. However, since so many women are nearing 35, single and want to have a child, they may want to get "knocked up" sooner rather than later. Waiting too long may be heartbreaking, and if you have enough love to raise a child, then maybe that love will make everything else fall into place.
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