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(PHOTOS) Here's My Post-Partum Body: No Fear. No Regrets.

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This post was supposed to contain many more pictures. Revealing pictures of my wrecked postpartum body.I didn’t chicken out, it’s just that my “photographer” (Jessie) had a moment and the picture session was nixed for the evening.

“But Somer,” you may be asking. “Why the hell were you going to post pictures of your body and broadcast them to the whole world? Are you just becoming desperate for attention?” My simple reply to that is to say “fuck off.” The more in-depth reply is to explain that my truth concerning my body is different from what super models who walk the runway in lingerie six weeks after giving birth have. My truth is that my body never returned to what it was pre-baby. My truth is that my stretch marks were not minimal and the stretched skin never really puckered back up. My truth is that my belly button will always look a little weird and wrinkly now. My truth is that there will always be a bit of a lip at the bottom of my stomach from where the loose skin hangs, thanks to either C-sections or very large babies. I wanted to post pictures of my truth to show that I have no regrets concerning this truth. I have no fear of it. I wanted to post it to give people who share a similar truth something to look at and smile a knowing smile.

I can fit into my pre-pregnancy pants. My shoes all still fit. My boobs deflated back to their sad and hilarious small size. But I’m not the same. I think most women who go through pregnancy feel that way. Your body just isn’t quite the same. Some changes are minor and are easy to forget. Other changes are more glaring. When I look at pictures of myself running around in small bikinis or shirts that revealed my super sexy belly button, my mouth might turn down slightly before I see another picture of one of my sons. I smile and say, “I gave those skimpy clothes a good run,” and go on with my life.

The pictures would have explained a lot. Some people would gasp and say, “Oh, that poor girl.” Others would scoff and say that I have it easy. Each pair of eyes is a different filter, and my truth colors differently through those filters. I guess what I want to impart is that for me, it’s ok to be stretched out, saggy and discolored. I still feel sexy. I am someone with extra skin who has no intentions whatsoever to have cosmetic surgery to get me back to my 21-year-old body.

I won’t be wearing bikinis on the beach, and I won’t be seen in half-shirts anymore. Those days are gone and, quite frankly, I’m too old for some of that anyhow. I’m not going to regret the loss of that taut skin or fear letting anyone see what has become of my body. You know why?

Somer with babies

That’s why.

And it doesn’t hurt that my butt still looks rockin’ in a good pair of blue jeans.

Ah, the sagging skin. The hilariously deflated belly button. There’s a mole on my stomach that used to be right beside my belly button that has migrated, thanks to stretched skin, more to my side.

The C-section lip. And the craziness of my stretch marks. And oh yeah, some side-butt. You can just ignore that last one.

Truth time folks: Stretch marks happen. Those fancy creams and oils on the market to prevent them or diminish them don’t do much. Granted, my babies were rather large, but these stretch marks are NOT new. Those

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acorndreaming 5 pts

Thank you for sharing your pictures. When I saw them I almost burst into tears because I look just like you. I have that exact same c-section lip - the same skin sag - and I had no idea that it isn't just me. My friends who have had babies didn't have c-sections and their bellies don't look like mine. I've always thought I had a botched sew up job or something. Would I trade my kids to have my stomach back to its pre-stretched and sagging shape? Nope. But I'd be lying if I said the c-section lip and the sagging didn't bother me. It helps a lot to know what other women actually look like after having babies - it helps me see the beauty in my own post-baby belly.

Thank you.

Megan writes at www.acorndreaming.com ( http://www.acorndreaming.com ), a chronicle of her life and all the beautiful, crazy people who inhabit it, including her ADHD son, Ace, her old soul daughter, Tink, and her husband, IT Guy, that liar who used to wear tights. 

april yedinak 5 pts

I thought I was the only one that got that weird belly shelf-1/2-tummy-tuck thing after a c-section. I have had 3 and while I don't have many stretch marks, my once cute belly button is now more of a belly slit. I could stash a couple of bags of fruit snacks in there for playdates!

Momofacrew 5 pts

YOU are awesome!!! I have 2 adorable reasons for my stretch marks and saggy skin as well...2 reasons that make every damn bit of the sag worth it one million times over!

Once I commented to my husband that he seems MORE interested in me now than before we had kids...back when I was super in shape (heck, what did I have to do w/my free time but keep in shape w/sports, hiking, etc...haha). His reply was that I must be losing it to think he WOULD'T be more attracted to me now...I gave birth to our children, that makes me the sexiest thing on 2 legs...God love that man. ;-)

Rock on hot momma!! Those awesome kids are worth every bit of it!!!!

valeriekristine 5 pts

I loved reading this. I have such a hard time reconciling my pre-baby self with who I am now. I guess it would be easier if I didn't love my old jeans so much...

My husband always makes me feel desirable, he shows it and he speaks it outright..specifically referring to my changed body shape. The problems I have are my own.

I will come back to this posting when I'm being rough on myself in the future. I do need to own my personal beauty and relate to beauty less as an expected appearance dictated by others and more as a reflection of the woman I am inside.

Thank you.

jenn-adou 5 pts

Thank you for sharing your truth. I needed it today!

Most days I feel the same. But sometimes it hits home that I'm not my pre-pregnancy shape and size after 2 kiddos. But never in a million years do I regret it!!!

Keep on rockin' it!

-----------------------------------------------@verifiedJenn
( http://twitter.com/verifiedJenn/ )) is off on a flight of fancy ( http://aflightoffancy.blogspot.com ).

KatysMOM 5 pts

That's all. You are awesome

Katy's Mom

For more of my misadventures in parenting, please check out my blog www.iamkatysmom.blogspot.com ( http://www.iamkatysmom.blogspot.com )

"I'd like to be the ideal mother, but I'm too busy raising my kids."

theoutcast 5 pts

What is it with the stink!? No one warns you about the stink!

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

SCanon 5 pts

I'm going to use that phrase ti describe my midsection from now on. I LOVE THAT.

Somer blogs at Merry Wife of Canon ( http://www.merrywifeofcanon.com ) as well as Smell My Plate ( http://www.smellmyplate.com ).

SCanon 5 pts

The summer after my first was born, I had a little moment when I went shopping for a new swim suit. When I realized that my world didn't have time to stop so I could worry about my body non stop, I went with it and eventually was able to get comfortable in my skin again. Hang in there.

Somer blogs at Merry Wife of Canon ( http://www.merrywifeofcanon.com ) as well as Smell My Plate ( http://www.smellmyplate.com ).

Bonnie Crowder 5 pts

And "mama lightning" - that's a new one to me, and might be my favorite! Lightning = so raw and powerful and amazing, so full of life's energy. Perfect.

theoutcast 5 pts

I love this post! Our bodies are so amazing!

My husband gives me the biggest confidence boost when he says, "thanks for giving me my little guy". It makes me feel like he considers the gift more important than the resulting sagging and scars.

I love the "mama lightening" reference to stretch marks. My husband calls the weird stretch marks on my lower back "tiger stripes".

Thanks for sharing!

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

Karinya @ Unlikely Origins 5 pts

What a beautiful post! Bodies are amazing aren't they?

And I'm with you: no regrets :)

blogging with love at Unlikely Origins: How a Computer Geek, a Writer, and an Opinionated Toddler Form a Family. ( http://unlikelyorigins.blogspot.com/ )

marina_mcghee 5 pts

I couldn't agree more and send you my love through this comment. When you have a beautiful healthy baby in your arms, your priorities absolutely change and you don't seem to care about your waist size and bulging belly as long as your baby poops right, eats well and grows and giggles!I grew up with no hot running water, going to a bath house every Saturday with my mom and two sisters. Everyone is naked (women section separate from men, of course) and you see all types of bodies, young and old, and it's normal.

Ashack 5 pts

This was a really lovely post. Thank you for coming forward to tell it like it is, and to share that there is more to life than a pre-baby body!
I am a massage therapist, and I have to say that one of the best benefits of my job is the experience of seeing "real" bodies all of the time. I think that part of the problem with how women feel about their own physiques is that they just don't know what other bodies look like! The only times we are exposed to nakedness it is in the form of supermodels and magazines and photoshop. I wish we could go back to the times of public bath houses, when women walked around in the buff, frank about the truth of their physical bodies. We need a giant dose of reality!
Our bodies are beautiful. That's just the truth of it all. Cellulite= texture, gray hair= wisdom/ experience, sagging breasts= having nurtured a child.
I have a friend who calls her stretch marks "Mama Lightning." I love that-- becoming a parent is hard-core! We should simply be amazed by what our bodies are able to do for us and for others. They deserve to be loved and nurtured.
Thank you again for telling your story!

CroMom 5 pts

i can'y help but get annoyed when my husband is asking for sex at 11pm. i'm tired and i don't feel sexy when my boobs are swollen, I stink, and quite frankly after my 8 week old daughter is thru with me - I just want to have me to myself!
True I don't like the stretch marks or my c-sect scare, or my belly - but I would do it all over again for my 2 kids! they are worth it. and my husband does tell me I'm hot, look great, and he loves me - so it is not him. it is totally me! I think it will just take me some time that's all. Good for you though! Congrats on #2.

CLVrablik 5 pts

thank you for writing this...I needed this reminder today. It's "trophy wife season" in my part of the universe and I was having a private hissy fit about my post baby body (6 yr and 1 yr babes).

I think I can still poke my fingers through the stretch marks on my hips--think I could use that for a party trick? haha

JennaHatfield 9 pts

I adore you. :)

And yep, I have no problem letting my husband see me naked. The boys are five and three and my stretch marks are still visible, some are still purpley. And you know what? I don't even notice them most days. (Possibly because I'm too BUSY to notice them, but, you know.)

Thumbs up. Kudos. And keep rockin' on.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

IWantThursdays 5 pts

I LOVE your truth. Because you are so very right.

Love, love, love your words. And the adorable kids don't hurt either.

tara

http://iwantthursdays.blogspot.com