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The other day I had to go to the bank. More like HAD to go to the bank because I had written a check for twice the amount that was actually in my account and there’s this policy that most banks have about wanting the full amount in an account upon check cashing lest you want all of the money in your savings account to disappear as well. As you can tell, I’m well versed on banking policy, because I’m well versed at ways to screw up my budget.

It’s a 15 minute there and back walk to my bank. All I needed was 15 minutes to go and for the life of me I could not find those minutes until about 4:40 PM which is 20 minutes before the end of banking hours. Anytime I was remotely ready to go, some work thing brought me back. Which is when I realized how often that it happens: All the times that I need to do some personal thing, I remember my expansive ‘To Do’ list and procrastinate. Which is probably why come Saturday I’m driving around like a mad woman listening to ‘Wait, wait don’t tell me’ and running errands. Because if it doesn’t get done in that 48 hour period it will have to wait.

My mother used to run errands every weekend as she usually returned home around 6:30 PM and then had to feed her barbaric children who probably could’ve stood to skip a meal and well, we were needy. As all children are.

I’m rambling of course because I keep trying to wrap my head around balancing my career (OMG! I have a CAREER!!) with my personal life, with writing, with babysitting, with a much needed bottle of wine. Every time I find myself ahead – this is an ever persistent trend with me: Two steps forward, 18 steps back – some non-event event (another trend: something that is not a big deal but I make it a big deal) comes up and everything is in disarray. The question I’m poising for all you knowledgeable ladies out there is how do people do it? Seriously. I can’t even manage to control my own life, though some would say otherwise, but the thought of ever having children (in a solid 15 years of course) and adding them to my already hectic life is so terribly daunting. I guess I’m at a loss and need advice possibly prayer maybe more wine, who knows. But ladies: how do you do it?

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vtgirl 5 pts

You know what... I think we are all in a constant state of tripping and stumbling through out lives. Not falling exactly, but definitely moving forward with momentum that is partly ours and partly chaos.

When I asked my mother the same question -- "how do you do it?" Her answer was, at this point in her life she was just amazed when anything got done at all.

I have not learned to be so graceful -- yet, but I still have hope, and a sense of humor. I think the biggest problem is banking hours. No one can fit their life into 9am to 5pm!

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Kalyn Denny 5 pts

I'm a bit hyper organized and people are always asking me how I get so much done (although I myself always feel like there's a long list of things I haven't gotten to!) One thing that really helps for me is having a routine for tasks that have to be done regularly, like I always do laundry on Saturday morning and make a grocery list on Friday night to give two examples. This sounds like such a simple idea, but it's very effective. Once you can get those routine tasks assigned to a time slot, it's easier to decide how to prioritize the other things you want to do.

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Jules 5 pts

What is really important? And then just cut out the extraneous crap that fills your life whilst adding no value to it.

There are things that you HAVE to do (like paying bills, banking, showing up to work to get things done so that you get paid) and then there are things that you WANT to do, and then there are things that you tell yourself you SHOULD do.

I finished my Masters degree in 2004, while working full-time, and there were areas of my life that suffered, like being able to spontaneously go out with friends who would phone up and ask me to go see a movie, when I had scheduled time to write a paper. Some friends understood when I said I couldn't make it, some friends didn't. And it was hard turning down the fun things to write a paper. But finishing my Masters (and doing well) was my priority at that point in time.

It really does get easier (well, I found it got easier) to learn how to balance work/life. You've just got to work out what your priorities are.

Jules

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