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On Squishy and PDA etc.
PDA = Public Displays of Affection.
That stuff is wacktacularly unnatural for me. As if it wasn't weird enough currently being smitten (with only one fella)and in a healthy relationship.
After all, my last significant relationship involved a guy, blogger, who was either cheating on his exgirlfriend with me or cheating on me with his next girlfriend and had asked me, nay — begged me, never to blog about him, link to him, or act that he existed on the internet.
Actually, the asshole told people that I was a hallucinating/hystrionic liar who had manufactured the entire relationship when people pointed out references to him on this blog. But that’s neither here nor there. And I do thank the heavens above that I’ve wasted wasted no more time in my life or emotional bandwidth on that individual who could treat me and my emotions so carelessly.
So I’ve been cautious and reticent re: writing about personal things and my personal life online. The occasional bon mot, yes? But the inner workings of my head? Well… yeah. Definitley more reticent about that.
It’s not that I don’t think things are going well. In fact, the opposite. I feel wildly bulletproof re: my emotions in this situation. It’s something I’ve never felt before. But it’s that I still like the notion of intimacy. (And the fact that I’m blogging about my feelings on the notions of intimacy is the meta discussion vs. actually gushing re: my intimate guts — there is a difference there.)
My personal relationships are not for public consumption or broadcast. There’s no PR in my romances. I find it horrifically offensive when people put broadcast spin of a PR or web 2.0 nature on their personal relationships. That, I find really gross.
For instance, I received a sms msg via Dodgeball from someone I know stating “@ a very romantic place! having a brilliant conversation with my amazing boyfriend†To which I thought the following:
a) But not saying where you’re at, you kinda defeat the purpose of using dodgeball for its intended purpose
b) if the conversation is so brilliant, why are you dodgeballing in hoping someone will track you down to join you?
c) how amazing is it that this social utility, dodgeball, has been tweaked for such anti-social behavior
d) ok. you guys are squishy. we get it. now can we move on with our lives because the rest of the world really really isn’t that interested in your love life. i mean, it’s not like you’re tom cruise and katy holmes. and even them - i don’t really care much about. Not even in that (and don’t draw parallels here) train-wreck kinda way.
I mean, I’ve seen public blog relationships come and go. WTF is the novelty in it and why should anyone care? Which maybe makes me sound catty.
Or - just too happy in my own situation to wonder why people have to broadcast and rub your nose in their rose garden. Frankly - it gives me the sneezies.
Am I alone here?
