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The #staymarried Podcast – The Seven Do’s and Four Don’ts for a Long and Happy Marriage

Welcome to the very first ever episode of The #staymarried Podcast! Now available on iTunes and I’m pretty sure every other podcast app. SUBSCRIBE! ...more

Some Problems In Your Marriage Are Here To Stay

Every couple has their perpetual problems. These are the problems that you fight and argue about, but nothing seems to change. You plead your case, you hear their side of it, you may even reach some kind of agreement or compromise, and then, before too long, you are arguing about it all over again ....more

E is for Empathy in The Relationship Alphabet

This guy wrote this book and you HAVE TO get it! The guy is Zach Brittle, a Certified Gottman Therapist, and I’ve been fan-girl following his work on the Gottman Relationship Blog for the past couple of years. The book… THE BOOK!… is The Relationship Alphabet: A Practical Guide to Better Connection for Couples ....more

Does Marriage Really Have To Be Hard Work?

Whenever we write or talk about boundaries that keep your marriage healthy, we hear a little bit of backlash. The overall sentiment is something like, “Why should I have to change? Why should I have to do things differently than I did when I wasn’t married? ...more

When Your Marriage Needs More Than a Date Night

I’m going to go out on a limb here and make a sweeping-generalization-type-of-statement: No one wants to become simply roommates with their spouse. Right? Right ....more

3 Things You Must Do When You’re Just Too Tired to Connect

I wonder sometimes if barriers toward intimacy cause as many divorces as fights and hostility do. What I mean is, I think intimacy is tough. It is hard to bare all in front of another person ....more

71 Ways to Express Your Love When You’re Not Shakespeare

Everyone wants to hear that they are loved and admired. It’s love that inspired Journey’s “Faithfully” and Taylor Swift’s “Blank Space.” Love is at the center of Shakespeare’s sonnets, and Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice, and Nicholas Sparks’ The Notebook. “How do I love thee, let me count the ways,” wrote Elizabeth Barrett Browning, and then she went on to compose one of the most famous love notes of all time ....more

3 Better Ways to Connect with Your Kids

Parenting is the thing Tony and I fight about the most. We don’t fight about it because we have vastly different philosophies on parenting– for the most part, we agree on how we want to raise our girls. But the act of parenting is very different from the idea of it, and that’s where we find ourselves butting heads ....more

Your house, your rules.

There is something to being a family. Whether you are a family of two, or a family of ten, being a part of a family is a phenomenal thing. Creating a family with another person, a person you have chosen to commit your life to, is pretty amazing ....more

10 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Divorced

When my husband and I were dating, we went to one of the most lavish weddings I can remember. It was before brides were pinning their dream days on Pinterest, and looking back, I’ll bet Pinterest probably sent a correspondent to this same wedding just to take a look at all of the details. The bride, Lindsay, was perfectly polished in every way ....more