Relationship Resolutions

I love making New Year's Resolutions. Last year, I resolved to give up Internet dating for an entire year, come what may. I met a guy the good, old-fashioned way on New Year's Eve, dated him for a few months. Ended that and met The Boyfriend a couple months later at a games night.

I think it depends where you live, but I do so many different things and meet so many new people all the time, that I realized Internet dating was making me lazy. More on that in another post, though. This post is about resolutions.

Relationship resolutions.

It occurred to me that the new year is a good time to take a look at your relationship - or lack thereof - and make a resolution for change. Yes, change, because sometimes it doesn't have to be about improvement. Sometimes, like my resolution to give up on Internet dating for a year, you can make a resolution that's designed to simply shake things up.

So, maybe this year you resolve to have date nights, or to compliment each other more, or to do more favors for each other. (In these instances, BTW, I recommend being specific in your resolution - one date night a month, for example.) Or, maybe you resolve to swap a chore, or take up a new hobby - separately or together. Think of something that would shake up your routine or anything else you feel too settled into.

Single? Try a resolution that changes your dating routine. Let go of the computer, or conversely, give that crazy Internet dating a spin. Here's one I would like to try if I was dating again. I think I would resolve to not email with potentials - demand conversation on the phone or in person. We've all become so used to email, actually talking can really shake things up.

Don't be shy about sharing or declaring your resolutions, either. Resolutions are a great conversation starter.

So, got any good relationship resolutions?

Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess, The SexySmart Blog, and On The Lot.

Submitted by Liz Rizzo (view blog

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I think intenet dating

is a bad addiction.

When we first join we have plenty of suitors and when they don't pan out, or the emails drop from 20 a day to 1 or two of sad looking fools that just hit every girl they find, we end up endlessly searching and replying to avatars in the new search group, hoping to make any kind of connection because we put too much time and effort not to get something...

then youknow its time to give internet dating a gigabit of a break!!

I have better luck just standing on the curb at the airport..LOL

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Submitted by blindedbyblonde on Sat, 11/08/2008 - 08:18

Resolutions

don't have time for resolutions, more interested in scheming how I can convince the children that we live via East Coast time so that we can swing them into bed 3 hours earlier than the rest of California.
Cheers

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Submitted by mcewen on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 19:26

Friday night date night

Good point, Liz. I'm resolving to date my husband more this year. I've already lined up a babysitter for afternoon to evening on Friday nights. That should give me time to get ready/relax as well as to go out to dinner with my husband.

And hey, if we skip dinner in favor of a soak in our local hot tub place, so much the better... ;)

Mary
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Submitted by Mary Tsao on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 20:53

Hotel...Here We Come - Again

Mary said "And hey, if we skip dinner in favor of a soak in our local hot tub place, so much the better...;)"

I highly recommend a hotel room to couples especially if you have a gaggle of kids running around the house like I do. It may seem expensive even if you go the cheapie route, but my husband and I just did this for the first time in 16 years and all I can say is.....JUST DO IT!

The silence.......the letting your barriers down because you don't know who is coming up the stairs or down the hall...the actual talking that we've often given up because something else (or someone else) took priority....it was a wonderful way to reconnect without interruption and something we absolutely 'needed'!

Our resolution is to plan at least two of these this year....if we can do more, we absolutely will!

Submitted by shouldbecleanin on Fri, 12/29/2006 - 22:38

Date night

It definitely seems like the date night concept is an important one. I read somewhere, too, that a good idea is to find another couple and switch off babysitting for each other's kids for date nights.

Submitted by Liz Rizzo on Sat, 12/30/2006 - 09:31