Teaching an Old Dog to Turn New Tricks
by Suzanne Reisman

Why not end the old year with a bang or 30? In the last New York Times Sunday Styles of 2006, an article by Sharon Waxman, ”"The Graying of Naughty", reported that “mature-women” porn has been getting bigger (heh heh) in the last few years. The article featured a 50 year old woman who decided to enter the business because, as she said, “I love sex,” and she thought it would be fun. Plus, the idea of earning money from doing something she enjoyed appealed to her. (Even today, porn is the only industry in which women outearn men.)

There are some great pro-women, sex-positive aspects in the “mature-woman” porn genre. First, it seems to feature fewer surgically altered women. Second, it portrays middle-aged women as the attractive, sexual human beings they are, i.e. - the idea that people want to have sex with someone over the age 25 is downright normal. Sure, sometimes it is played up fetishistically, but what “mainstream” movie or TV show doesn’t do the same thing, particularly in its strange lust for teen girls? At least these women are well above the legal age of consent. Third, many women themselves are behind the action, writing, directing, and financing these films. This is personified in Bonnie Kali, 48, who is generally credited as the creator of the genre. Kali used her own personal dating experiences to create stories and movies. I am all for more women’s voices, experiences, and views to go along with our tits, asses, and crotches when it comes to porn, and for that matter, any other entertainment medium.

However, the Times article glossed over most of these important aspects. In asking why the genre suddenly grew so popular, the stock answers given centered around what men want. One explanation producers gave is that consumers:

are young men fulfilling boyhood fantasies of teacher lust or yearning for the attractive mothers of their friends. Some... may be tired of what one producer... has called, in a recent AVN article, “the young, helpless teen thing…” David Jospeh, 38… the president of Platinum X, said, “It’s totally an erotic thing people are attracted to. There’s a huge market out there for older women. I’m trying to understand it myself.”

Fine. I’m way over the young helpless teen thing, too. And therein lies the problem with the article’s theories on mature porn: it only takes into consideration male viewers. Worse, the article seems to believe that all male porn consumers are young. Witness this fine line: “The biggest change is in the sexual desirability of women old enough to be the viewer’s mother.” Nope, I guess that leaves out middle-aged and older male consumers, in addition to women viewers of all ages. We clearly have nothing to do with this change, not that any evidence beyond broad generalizations and generic speculations presented by the article.

It is not that hard to understand the phenomena, however, when one considers the larger popluation. Over a decade ago, studies found that at least 40% of people consuming porn are female. While I also have no solid statistics to back this up, I suspect that that number has only increased, or at the very least, not decreased. (I could be wrong, of course.) I’m willing to go out on a limb here and suggest that it is this diverse range of consumers who are fueling the increase in popularity of older, regular-looking women appearing in film and print.

People are demanding something beyond 19 year old women with watermelon-sized breasts. Sure, there are plenty of warts within the porn industry, but I appreciate that they are somewhat responsive to the wider range of interests of their audiences. And profits show how much those audiences reward efforts to please them. Perhaps Hollywood and other media might learn a thing or two from their dirty dog cousins.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants

Comments

 

Well, hate to be the one to

Well, hate to be the one to say it, but I think the biggest consumers of porn are still men...to use an old stereotype that gets me in trouble with most feminists: men are more visual than women.

Aside from that, they usually have more disposable income to spend on porn.

Although I can't buy the stat that more women are buying porn. It's not just the disposable income thing--but why buy when you can get so much of it for free?

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Women and Porn

Love this post and this discussion of porn. I hate to disagree with the last person who posted, but in my experience, women are major consumers of porn. Maybe it depends on psychographic profiles of the people in my life, but most of the porn consumption in my world is by women, and they have definitely elevated the art. There are now a lot of great porn directors - Kali among them - who are making porn more realistic, and as such, more interesting. In the "old school" days, the situations were so implausible as to not be erotic at all, because, I don't know about you, but I've never found myself in an old-west bar with a bunch on "wenches" and "cowboys" who are putting bodily fluids in shot glasses. I love the feminine influence on porn. Also, as one who runs a very popular Q & A site about sex and relationships, most of the questions I get about porn are from women. They seem to be using it to get some more zip and fire back into their relationships - almost like research, and I think that's great.

If you’re new to this, and are curious, I think the best way to expose yourself, as it were, is at the Good Vibrations site, www.goodvibes.com. This is an excellent sex-positive repository of tons of information and products for a hot and healthy sex life – run by and for women and the people they love. Completely chic-centered, they have detailed and informative reviews of all their films, and you can rent them Netflix style, which is great. I trust them with my curiosity and my credit cards, a top-notch bunch of women bringing good-loving to the forefront of our lives.

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Trouble by the Answer

I am bothered by David Jospeh's answer:

There’s a huge market out there for older women. I’m trying to understand it myself.

It makes it sound like there's something wrong with it. I don't really care about his personal about it. I would rather know why the customers like it. However, as you pointed out he's assuming that the customers are young males.

Someone made a comment last night at a Talking to Your Kids about Sex meeting lead by Planned Parenthood that I attended. If you want to know what the real world looks like, go into a Y locker room. Perhaps Hollywood should stop in. Then again this was the same meeting where some moms were all up in arms about telling their kids that girls have "vaginas" since they felt the word "vagina" was a sexualized word and thus should not be spoken.

A Elliot