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Recap of Ugly Betty: I'm Coming Out

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"Betty Rules!" - Betty's nephew, Justin

Watch this episode (or catch up with the season) at ABC.com

Although the title of this episode refers to the journey of one of the characters, the emotional core of this episode should be called "brothers and sisters." For a show that can be quite over the top (and hilariously so) in its comedy, the heart in the dramatic currents can be quite affecting.

Hilda still nursing her failed cupcake business wounds sits on the couch watching a telenovela (you can also catch up on the shows-within-the-shows Vidas del Fuego and Muchas Muchachas online, as well - warning: loud commercial automatically loads) and eating cookie dough as Betty runs around talking into her Bluetooth headset and Justin explains the importance of Fashion Week to Ignacio.

At the Mode offices Wilhelmina and Fabia spar over a custom dress and after Wil complements Fabia on her skin, Fabia shares her secret doctor's treatment (which also launches a series of unfortunate double entendre duck ejaculation jokes and sight gags - call me a cranky old prude but I thought that was all a bit much on a show that is shown at 8 pm and targets pre-teens, among others).

Hilda, in a fit of Oprah-esque empowerment, shows up at Mode to make copies of her resume. After telling Hilda that there were no openings on the Mode Fashion Week team, to Betty's horror, Daniel casually directs Betty to hire Hilda because they can use the help.

Daniel's booty-chasing buddy Becks arrives to join Daniel for what was their annual tradition of betting who could score the hottest model at Fashion Week. Daniel, who is maturing into his responsibility as editor-in-chief and finally moving out of his brother's shadow in his father's eyes, shoos Becks away.

As Christina preps for her ill-gotten fashion show she and Betty give each other pep-talks. Betty reassures Christina of her talent which she doubts in light of her secret errand for Wil while lamenting Hilda's hiring because Mode is the one place where she is "Betty" and not "Hilda's sister."

While Ignacio and Constance work through his immigration paperwork Constance breaks down in tears and confesses to Ignacio that her boyfriend dumped her. Ignacio is clearly flummoxed by her boundary issues.

Justin convinces Hilda and Betty to take him to Fashion Week with a threat that he "knows a 6th grader who sells crack."

At the Mode tent Tim Gunn (yay!) is reporting on the show and announcing arrivals including the "brave" 70-year-old, ponytail sporting, Channel designer, Karl Lagerfeld.

Daniel is once again declining Becks bet until Alexis struts in and he takes the bet. At this point I'm thinking, ew - please don't take this too far.

Wil shows up with giant sunglasses to hide her swollen, duck fat infected eyes and instructs Marc that he will be her "seeing eye gay."

Back at the Suarez home Ignacio is hanging with Walter (love how they have different characters mixing it up and how they get everyone involved in this episode). Constance shows up out of the blue to cook Gumbo and watch a romantic comedy. Walter tells Ignacio that his only hope is to get Constance back together with her boyfriend.

Back at the tent Henry shows up and tells Betty that she has to get over to the Sean John tent and then totally, adorably demonstrates how he learned to pop and lock in the most nerd-tastic manner ever. Betty however becomes dismayed at how Hilda has managed to charm and befriend everyone at Fashion Week and she storms off "to become an only child." Along her warpath she meets American Idol runner up, Katherine McPhee and gushes that she "totally had the McPheever." That is until Katherine gives her an autographed CD - for Hilda.

Betty finds Hilda backstage creating "big hair" for the models and after setting one of them on fire, Betty fires Hilda.

In the meantime, Marc is off with Amanda to snag this year's "it" item (inexplicably, a Betsy Johnson fur bubble mini skirt) to sell to a knock-off house so that Marc can pay for his "Island Boys Cruise." Justin becomes Marc's substitute assistant to Wil. Even though Wil calls him "Jason" he doesn't care because he loves her.

In another corner of the tent Alexis observes Daniel's sweet support of Betty's efforts and pulls Daniel aside to chat. After telling him that she was Alex's ex-girlfriend, Alexis confesses the truth

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Maria Niles 5 pts

Truly a heartbreaking story and a powerful reminder of that difficulty.

I've lost friends because they didn't feel safe coming out to anyone they knew - only to those who first knew them as out. I cannot imagine how hard it would be in a family or community that is not supportive for anyone at any age to come out.

Denise 9 pts moderator

Coming out is hard. Really hard, particularly for kids.

Read this ( http://www.republicoft.com/2007/02/03/two-girls-in... ) about two girls who weren't able to do it - or do it and survive it.

Popular media and TV and movies make it sound cool to come out. They can even make it seem like you HAVE to come out in order to really be queer. They make it seem like you have to come out in order to help other people to come out. Sometimes, all of this popular "come out, you're safe, you can do it, we're here" propaganda does more harm than good, I'm afraid.

It shouldn't be that way, but it is.

My advice to kids is almost always - if you have to ask then the answer is probably no. And that's ok. You don't have to come out yet, or ever if you aren't in a safe place to do so.

~Denise
Fast Times @ Homeschool High ( http://fasttimes.clubmom.com )

Maria Niles 5 pts

If the kid was 12 and liked girls would it be an issue?

Very good point - I hadn't thought of it that way and you are so right. There's absolutely no second thought of showing twelve-year-olds with heterosexual crushes!

Maria Niles 5 pts

I appreciate your sharing your perspective and I think you're right that it could be really positive. But could it still be positive with the many hints so young gay people can identify with him as well as non-gay kids who are just "different" (and, really, aren't we all)?

From the LA Times article:

"My fan mail is mostly kids, especially kids that don't really fit in and people don't really understand them," Mark Indelicato [the actor who plays Justin]said. "They go, 'Thank you, because you're helping me to be understood by my peers,' and anybody else who doesn't understand them. That touches me. I'm glad that I'm reaching such a large amount of people."

That's where I'm torn ... if he comes out does it limit the kids who can identify with Justin? My other question is that I've certainly read and heard that, as you point out, many gay people realize at a young age - but do they come out to others at that young age? Is it more realistic and enough just to portray him being himself and leave the coming out until he is a bit older? Perhaps they could show him realizing himself...

Sorry to direct all these musings and questions to you, Meri! That's what you get for being kind enough to indulge my questions.

Thank you for commenting!

sassymonkey 6 pts

A friend of mine came out when he was about 12. I'm afraid I don't see why Justin shouldn't. If the kid was 12 and liked girls would it be an issue? No. So I don't see why it should be otherwise. Sadly it often is and like meriwilliams I think it could be a darned good thing for the kids sitting at home watching.

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meriwilliams 5 pts

I think Justin "coming out" could be a really positive thing. There has also been a LOT of hints as to his sexuality throughout the show. I think if he did, it would cause outrage, but that if it is handled well within the show it could be really positive. Many gay people realise at a young age - I was about 9 or 10 - and having noone to identify with can be the hardest thing. Being different is hard enough, feeling like a complete freak can be unbearable.