Parenting with Connection: The Blog

A photography-dabbling, primal-eating, black-belt seeking, housework-hating, triathlon-trying, homeschooling, grace-needing mom's attempt to capture life as it happens with 6 kids from all over the globe.

Weekend Reading | Jan. 23

Image courtesy of KROMKRATHOG / FreeDigitalPhotos.net This week the reading is one long story which was published in four parts. Long but worth the read. The Neglected Brain, Part 1 Danielle’s story illustrates the dangerous and long lasting effects of neglect on the brain, the body and the spirit ....more

Self-Care | The Missing Piece of Trust-based Parenting

With almost every strategy or tool I’ve been given that reflects connected or trust-based parenting, my initial instinct is to scream, “EASIER SAID THAN DONE!” Because healing trauma is a marathon, not a sprint, there is plenty of time for me to get frustrated and keep repeating my self-pit mantra. With every maladaptive behavior, I am tempted to blame my child–not her trauma. I struggle to find the compassion she needs for healing and security ....more

Weekend Reading | Jan. 16

Image courtesy of KROMKRATHOG / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads. 20 Signs of Unresolved...more

Birthday Parties

Sometimes success in a certain situation rests largely on how we prepare us and our kids and how we set our expectations. We have to be look ahead and mitigate risk much like a secret service detail. photo courtesy of Simon Howden / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Kids with trauma histories often have sensory processing challenges which make most parties a nightmare ....more

Weekend Reading | Jan. 9

Image courtesy of KROMKRATHOG / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate. Grab a steaming mug of hot liquid this weekend and steal away to a quiet corner for some quick reads. 10 Things To Do Differently *Before* You Lose Your Temper The one thing I’ve struggled with more than anything else in the last nine years of parenting has been temper ....more

fear vs. trust

Whenever I refer to trust-based parenting, I always think about my kids learning to trust me. While the parallelism of our unconditional love for our kids and God’s unconditional love for me is not lost, I recently realized, while listening to a Bryan Post interview, that there is a fear/trust line for parents, too. In social media settings, I see pleas for advice on the same behaviors and issues over and over—lying, stealing, cheating, inappropriate bathrooming, not sleeping, hoarding and other food issues, meanness to siblings, academic and processing struggles, etc ....more

Weekend Reading | Jan. 2

Image courtesy of KROMKRATHOG / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate....more

New Year’s Resolutions Re-visited

With kids from hard places, academic, cognitive, and/or developmental goals can be more frustrating than motivating. The way trauma-laden anxiety sabotages any behavioral consistency is enough to make even the most laid back parent reel. As I reflected over this year for our family, I decided to focus less on the “what” and more on the “how,” focus more on the process than the outcome ....more

Weekend Reading | Dec. 26

Image courtesy of KROMKRATHOG / FreeDigitalPhotos.net Below is a collection of various blog posts meant to encourage, inspire or educate....more

When the honeymoon is over

“Mom,” I sobbed over the sounds of something sturdy hitting the bathroom door over and over again....more