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Ladies, ladies, ladies… you continue to amaze and amuse me with your cleverness. The New York Times recently reported that women use cash as a way to hide how much they spend on personal indulgences from their husbands. Why the little white lies? Here is one woman’s sentiment, “Even though I have my own income, paying for my shopping in cash is so much easier than having a discussion about what I’m buying.â€
Kim at Thoughts and Musings reflected on this topic:
Surely I can’t answer for everyone, but I’d say most women conceal some purchases from their spouses. They’re not Louis Vuitton bags, but little things - other purses and bags, shoes, frozen pizzas. That sort of thing.
The “why†is pretty simple. For all their positive attributes, men just don’t get why one might need more than one bag or one black pair of shoes. And for all of our positive attributes, most women I know think we should be eating salads all the time...the thought that someone might discover our Freschetta stash in the back of the freezer is horrifying.
Susie at What Would Susie Do adds her spin:
Haven’t we all been here? Whether we’ve hidden it from the spouse, the boyfriend, the mom (eek!), I think most people have done this! If not, try it, it’s kind of thrilling!
A blog called I Agree With Me and written by a woman in Northern California who has been married for 21 years offers her own workable solution:
So what is a girl to do? Get your own money honey. Just ask for your own account - your own - it is your right - you pay your own bills for fluff stuff, and you get it replenished no questions asked every month - automatic - are you good with that? I am. Of course the spouse is going to say: But you can do whatever you want. I never say you can’t do anything you want. So why do you need your own account? Don’t fall for it girls. Just tell him - I want it - it gives me a feeling of independence, and it is that feeling I want. The realities have nothing to do with it. Just want that feeling.
But the writer at Secretly Ironic has a different view about women spending money in cash to avoid having to discuss it with their husbands:
Yes, some people do that. No, it’s not OK. It’s lying. The only way this is OK is if you have more than enough money for everything, AND you both agree that certain expenditures are not discussed. But only one couple who does it that way is mentioned: “She buys a lot of shoes, I go to Atlantic City, but that’s OK, we can afford it.â€
And finally, after posting excerpts from the article, ShoppingBlog.com concludes:
We’d stay and discuss this more but we’ve got to hit the ATM before Bergdorf’s closes.
Ok, BlogHer wives… anyone care to share your thoughts about secret greenback lives?
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Nina Smith also blogs about money at Queercents.
