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Yes, She's Very Smart

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When the little angel was just a wee pup, my mother would constantly exclaim, “She burped!” or “Look how she’s holding her toes!” and I would reply sagely, “Yes, she’s very smart.”

As she’s grown older, my claims that she is very smart have gone from “God, I hope she’s smart, because I don’t really know” to “Yep – hope she doesn’t turn out to be so smart I can’t understand what she’s saying.” Because at almost three, she’s already doing all sorts of things that I won’t name now because ya’ll would probably want to kill me.

If you’re Rou from World of Suck you would.

Or not? Because it looks like some of you want to hear about the little angel’s vast intelligence. You want to hear it, because you want to tell me about your child’s intelligence. Not in the name of competimomminess, but just in the name of sharing, of being excited for each other that we created these little PEOPLE with the BRAINS and they are just getting better every day. I applaud that. So does Liz from Mom-101 with this post and, slightly more archived, Rebecca from Nine Pound Dictator with this post.

Sometimes our children are not only smart but shockingly intuitive, saying the right things just when we need to hear them. I am still wiping my eyes from reading Kari’s post over at Clark Schpiell Productions.

While I promise to never put bumper stickers of any kind (not even the I Hate George Bush variety, even though I want to, I really want to) on my car, I will be taking all sorts of sappy mommy pride when the little angel makes the honor roll. Because I know in my heart that she will, whether I pressure her to do so or not.

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Rita Arens 7 pts

I think I posted last week or the week before about the different kinds of intelligence. Absolutely I agree that "smart" does not mean "academic."

And I hear you Nordette, she's already proven that her will is stronger than mine at three. And I'm pretty stubborn.

Overall, though, I think we should appreciate our children's strengths and help them learn from their weaknesses. We all have both.

Surrender, Dorothy - When I was your age, we just let them ride in the back window.

DanaFiles 5 pts

I think my son is really smart and I'm glad for that, but sometimes he's too smart. He used words in the appropriate context that are years from his vocabulary. It shocks me!

Dana from The Dana Files ( http://thedanafiles.com ).

Lisse 5 pts

Don't forget there are different kinds of smart too.

Both of my kids seem smart, but in very different ways. In spite of that, it would not surprise me if they both struggled some in school with different subjects or teaching styles.

The challenge for us as parents and teachers is to identify where they struggle and help them find strategies for adapting.

Lisse
@ Home in the World ( http://homeintheworld.typepad.com )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

My grandmother used to tell my mother and her other children, "You all want all these smart kids until they outsmart you." That's what I thought when I started reading this post and I smiled because it's a blessing to have a bright child, a healthy child.

Yet, it's also a blessing to have children period for those who want children.

Give that kid a sibling, Dorothy, or close friend and await the day they team up against you. My two did to play a joke on me that had me nearly screaming at the top of my lungs when my son, the younger was seven years old, and my daughter was 17. It was the seven-year-old's idea and his sister, the supposedly "gifted," mild-mannered one, played along.

I didn't laugh while they had me pulling out my hair, but as soon as they were done with me and I realized I'd been punked, I doubled over laughing and marveled that the seven-year-old could be so cunning.

Have fun.

"Love is liquid. Brew and be drunkards!" ~~Nordette ( http://nexus.writingjunkie.net ) And here's a link to the blog ( http://jerseygoddess.blogspot.com/ ).

Amanda_Magee 5 pts

I agree with all of the words posted her. I find myself becoming very familiar with an ache deep inside of me, a worry that my words will haunt my daughters. Whether it's intelligence, physical ability or beauty. My mom once said during the track off-season, "What happened? You used to be so tight." I felt so inadequate. I just want to make sure that the compliments that I give, encouragement I offer and any criticism will not mutate as it travels from my mind and my heart to these beautfiul little creatures who are today completely devoid of insecurity, self loathing and longing for something other than what they have.

The Wink ( http://www.toddlywinks.blogspot.com )
( http://www.lifewithbriar.blogspot.com )

Crunchy Carpets 5 pts

I just pray I don't see them on crimestoppers

Look for me at http://crunchycarpets.com or check out the ladies at www.wetcoastwomen.com ( http://www.wetcoastwomen.com )

cce 5 pts

I'm not sure my kids are honor roll material and I've been whining ( http://www.madmarriage.com/blog/2007/03/20/is-ther... )about this lately. But I'm often blown away by the little glimmers of wisdom they offer up on very adult topics like faith and death and the possibility of an afterlife. ( http://http://www.madmarriage.com/blog/2007/03/29/... ) There are smart people and there are good people and there are smart,good people. And only the good part truly matters.