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I want to share this story of how I didn't stand up when I saw someone being bullied, how I let my fears walk before me, let them weave a blanket of silence between my mouth and the sky. Cyber-bullying is in the news these past few weeks, and my dear friends at BlogHer are opening a dialogue about civility, decency, about opening our mouths when we should. Thank you, BlogHer.
My two young boys and I delivered brochures along the short streets of the old neighborhood behind the elementary school. I never canvassed here before, never saw these hundred homes hidden by eucalyptus and palm, a hundred older homes still untouched by recent years of rocket crazy real estate investors. I handed the boys handfuls of books at a time, and they ran ahead of me, trading houses back and forth, leaving books on faded wooden door steps and cracked driveways.
I wasn't in the mood to knock on doors. I wasn't in the mood for Avon, period. I should be in the mood, gas is expensive and children are expensive and I have but three days left in this campaign. But I can't shake random memories from my mind. Something about my lack of money, my lack of time, how behind I have fallen, the light through the trees in the neighborhood and watching my boys race through crab grass to drop a brochure, something about all of these things mixed together, mixed with uncertainty, mixed with being home and being a thousand miles from any kind of rest, something about my mixed up mind keeps me from getting a whole lotta anything done.
And so I watched those brochures fly through the air and land on pebbles and stopped to pet a skinny yellow cat and walked the boys to the playground behind the school, did all of these things without thinking, a zombie momma trapped in another dimension. And all I could think and remember, when my brain finally reopened, while my boys swung higher than the trees, was a snapshot of a memory from the eighth grade.
My hometown in New England was small. Most of the townspeople worked at the State Hospital, an institution for the mentally handicapped. We lived near the escape siren, and when a patient left the grounds, the siren blew like the warning signal for a tornado. Old ladies would lock their doors, afraid of the 'retarded.' Our house sat across the street from the library, a quarter mile from the town common. My parents purchased a beat-up Victorian mansion; it was over 200 years old and runanway slaves hid in a secret room under the stairs during the time of the Underground Railroad. The neighbors swore the ghost of the previous owner haunted the grounds. She hung herself in the dilapidated barn in the backyard, the victim of alcoholism and small town gossip. The light from a single candle she place in the loft flickered in the middle of the night, said the neighbors, and her moans his behind the wind during winter storms.
My school had only 400 students, grades seven through twelve. I hung out with the nerdy band bunch, and though we were ostracized and ridiculed by the beautiful and popular, we weren't treated like a small handful of students, the poorest of the poor from a dirt poor town. One of these kids was a girl named Trish. She was one year younger than me, a seventh grader, with a halo of frizzy blonde hair and watery eyes. I never heard her say a word. She sat alone in the lunchroom, never eating, never bringing or buying a lunch, never cracking a book or a smile, a pale goddess of the poor. She sat and stared into space, and I found myself watching her over the course of the year, wondering why she never ate. Now I'm sure she was too poor to even bring a peanut butter sandwich, but in my eighth grade mind that poor was for people in books, not in my school, not across from me at lunch.
I saw Diane Wilson and her pack of rabid cheerleaders torment Trish. Diane wore feathered roach clips in her hair and her older boyfriend drove a Camaro. She poked Trish in the back with math protractors and tripped her on her way out of the lunchroom. I wanted to protect Trish, to jump in between them, to grab Trish and run to the office, but I never did. I never
