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Do the Ends Justify the Means?

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The litmus test for feminism for many hinges on whether a person is pro-choice. Those who believe that it is not possible to be a feminist and not believe in total self-determination have an interesting point, but I can also understand the argument of women who are morally opposed to abortion and embrace women's rights. What I cannot begin to fathom is how anyone who claims to be a feminist can celebrate at the tactics used to convince the Supreme Court that abortion should be made illegal. The gist of the argument is that women might come to regret their decision, and must be protected from our potentially bad judgment.

According to today's New York Times, Justice Kennedy wrote in the majority decision that:

“While we find no reliable data to measure the phenomenon, it seems unexceptionable to conclude some women come to regret their choice to abort the infant life they once created and sustained,” Justice Kennedy wrote... “Severe depression and loss of esteem can follow.”

Forget that this is one of the scariest reasons to decide national law ever – that despite a lack of compelling evidence, some people regret their decisions, so we have to be sure that no one can ever be in that situation – and think about what this really says: women do not have the capacity to make decisions for ourselves. We need the government and other people to tell us how to live our lives, lest we regret making a mistake. It also implies that we are easily duped into harming ourselves, and seek easy ways out of difficult situations without thinking about the consequences. No feminist can possibly believe this.

Feminists who oppose legal abortion would undoubtedly argue that some mistakes are larger than others and there is another life at stake in this instance. But before they embrace any means to justify an end, I implore feminists to remember that we have heard this argument before and it pretty much never, ever has benefited women. Do you really want to go down this slippery slope? If your cause is so just, and you are truly feminists, you should have faith that you can prevail without undermining your own credibility (and mine) as people who can think and make rational decisions for yourself.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants

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Kuri 5 pts

I'd very much support something like this. I felt like there was a huge weight lifted from my shoulders after my abortion.

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Suzanne 5 pts

The cheesecake and spandex is particularly poignant, although I am thinking more about the bag of Cheetos and chocolate-covered gingerbread cookies I ate for breakfast.

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viciousrumours 5 pts

Sure. I mean if we're going to try and prevent the "regret" of past actions then we want to ensure that men are covered to, don't we? I mean we can't have them running amok and fathering children they might have to support. They might "regret" that. *shakes her head* We should also introduce legislation that makes all junk food illegal immediately because I don't know about you, but I REALLY regret that piece of cheesecake I ate the other night. We're going to need to do something about legislating who can wear spandex, because I know there are a few people who regret making THAT decision....the list goes on and on...it's ASSININE. Someone needs to take a stick to this guys head. Or would that be harsh?

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

I'm in. Can we add a "castration clause"? -- In the event that this appendage has caused emotional distress, let it be removed?

Honestly, if the emotional well being of women is what our government is most concerned with, then this is a very important part of the legislation.

Catherine Morgan
Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Be The Change You Want To See In Yourself ( http://catherinemarie.wordpress.com/ )

viciousrumours 5 pts

Following this demented stream of logic we should immediately pass laws limiting a man's right to have sex as he may come to regret the children he father's and the consequences associtated with said children, most specifically the cost of raising them. I propose we band together and draft this law immediately to protect men from themselves. Who's with me?

Suzanne 5 pts

As to your argument which had nothing to do with what I wrote about whether unborn women have choices, I looked up the definition of "woman" on Suzanne ( http://www.blogher.com/member/suzanne ), BlogHer Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender ( http://www.blogher.com/topic/feminism-gender )
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Suzanne 5 pts

The point of this is not whether or not abortion should be legal, but what the consequences of the tactics to make it illegal are. You want to ban it, that's your issue. I don't agree with it, and I will fight you every step of the way. But I am asking here is that you find ways to do it that do not imply that women have no ability to think for ourselves. If you agree with Kennedy's line of thought on this, you believe that women need to be protected from our potential mistakes and regrets, you cannot be a feminist because you think we are essentially illogical children who need to be babysat. If that's the case, then why should women be allowed to vote? To drive? To show themselves in public without a man to protect us from accidentally crossing the street without looking both ways?

This is not about abortion at all, and I think that it is dangerous for feminists who oppose legal abortion to jump on this bandwagon because it may get you to one of your goals faster. In the long run, this line of reasoning hurts far more women than is worth. Find a better argument to make your case.

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iasshole 5 pts

I am so relieved that Justice Kennedy knows what is best for me, a silly woman. I am forever running around having life-altering medical procedures without educating myself about them first, and then, whoops, it's like I get a case of the Mondays for a whole month. Thanks, Patriarchy, for watching out for me.

Bluntness looks good on you, Suzanne. Also, well-put, Liz.

Liz Rizzo 5 pts

Because most women who get abortions probably don't have much of a story to go with it. "I went to the doctor; I had an abortion; I came home; I don't really think about it much at all."

The truly interesting thing to me is all the documentation about how traumatic and negatively life-changing pregnancy can be. Obviously, not to say it isn't also wonderful and worth it if you want a child - but hello: mother-discrimination, lifetime of expense, post partum, etc. Meanwhile, most abortions, while reflecting a serious decision, are ultimately something easily moved on from. It's really terrifying that people can just completely make something up in their head as "unexceptionable to conclude" and BAN AN IMPORTANT PROCEDURE without health exceptions. Terrifying.

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connysmom 5 pts

Thankfully the question doesn't matter. The egg has been fertilized, so all that matters now is the "chicken". :-)

jessabean 5 pts

Thanks for writing this. It never ceases to amaze me how utterly condescending the "decision-makers" often are. Why do people like Justice Kennedy insist on ignoring the fact that the process of determining whether or not to terminate a pregnancy is agonizing for the woman? Those who ultimately do choose abortion do so for a number of reasons, and I hate how the choice is simplified: You "killed a baby" because it was inconvenient, and now you're totally going to regret it.

And is the Supreme Court really going to try and decide cases in order to prevent women from getting depressed? Because I can think of a million other issues they can act on to help in that regard. But it's not their job to prevent me from making mistakes or to tell me how I should feel.

Great post!

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Catherine Morgan 5 pts

But what came first the chicken or the egg? Sorry. I couldn't help myself. ;-)

Catherine Morgan
Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Be The Change You Want To See In Yourself ( http://catherinemarie.wordpress.com/ )

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Great post, and so true.

Catherine Morgan
Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Be The Change You Want To See In Yourself ( http://catherinemarie.wordpress.com/ )

connysmom 5 pts

But what about the unborn women? Where is their choice?