DeBie Hive

I am a writer, a doula and a photographer.  A wife, a sister, a daughter, a mother and a friend.  I'm officially a member of the sandwich generation, trying to figure out how to keep it together.  Come along for the's rarely dull around here.

the hardest lessons...

It's August. Around here, this month is wildly predictable. It begins with rampant lethargy, boredom and heat ....more

Before You Go To School This Year, 2016

Before I even start writing this one, I have to tell you guys that I meant to get it done before school actually started....I did. I just didn't end up that way.But hey, that means that I already have a current first day of school picture that includes all of you to put here, so there's that. Since you always reap the benefits of being the oldest kid, Oldest, I'm going in reverse order this time ....more

When You Woke Up This Morning, You Were 8

Dear Little Boy,You aren't so little anymore, I suppose. I keep asking you when you are going to outgrow my lap and you've started to believe that it is going to eventually happen. You used to just laugh and tell me that you'd always be my Baby Chicken ....more

And if you don't know, now you know...

This week, I spent some time with one of my oldest friends. And by oldest I obviously mean greatest, as it couldn't possibly be any reference to how old we both are now. I'm not even telling you how many years we've known each other, because it's wholly irrelevant ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday (okay, Wednesday) - the Olympics, as told by mansplainers, edition

Before I go any further, I have to confess to you guys that I love the Olympics. I love everything it stands for, I love the idea of world peace and unity in the name of sport. I love hearing about the stories of athletes like Yusra Mardini, the teenage refugee who dragged a sinking boat full of people to safety before swimming her way to this international event....more

15 Years Late and Repurposed...

I've been meaning to write about this for a while. In fact, I think about how I need to write this post every Thursday when I'm getting out of the car for work, but then I'm too bust wrangling a/v equipment and drunk people for a few hours to make a note of it, and by Friday morning, I've forgotten all about it for another week.This is my brain on ADHD.Hi.I like shiny things.Anyhow, I've been meaning to write this. So here.My brother bought me this bag ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the list of people Trump has offended edition

I had a ton of other topics I planned to cover today, like the fact that I just got a Fitbit and so now I'm hyper-obsessed with all of my bodily functions that can be objectively quantified by this thing. I got 7 hours and 2 minutes of sleep last night, you guys.Also, it is hard to type wearing a Fitbit SO I AM TAKING IT OFF FOR A FEW MINUTES AND SITTING DOWN LET THE WITHDRAWAL BEGIN.Not to worry, I'll walk laps around the kitchen to catch up as soon as I'm done.I wish I was kidding.See???Told you. Hyper-obsessed.Anyway, what I am actually writing about today is pretty straight-forward ....more

How To Teach a White Middle Class Teenage Boy About Privilege - in ten easy steps...

You guys know damned well that I'm not writing a how-to instructional guide here.What I am doing, though, is telling you all a story about how I drove home an important point about privilege in this society to one of the groups of people in this world who needs to understand them the most.White dudes.Specifically the white dudes that live in my house.Before you all go get your pitchforks and accuse me of race baiting and all the other shit that online trolls like to accuse me and my liberal bitch self of...stop. I've been writing about privilege for a while now and if you don't like it, leave.You don't even need to announce your departure in some grand obnoxious fashion. You can just go.For the rest of you, though, I thought this was a pretty profound lesson this week.On to the story....The neighborhood we live in is a fairly isolated one ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the it's not about the emails edition

FOR THE LOVE PEOPLE.I haven't written one of these in a while, so brace yourselves. It's Not About The Emails...I was a Bernie supporter. I am still a Bernie supporter ....more

My Dog is Defective

Almost exactly a year ago now, we adopted him. Oliver.We'd found him through a rescue group, driven over an hour to go meet him. They were sure he was half lab, but had no idea what the rest of his genetic makeup might be ....more