DeBie Hive

I am a writer, a doula and a photographer.  A wife, a sister, a daughter, a mother and a friend.  I'm officially a member of the sandwich generation, trying to figure out how to keep it together.  Come along for the's rarely dull around here.

to find the joy

It's amazing, this life sometimes.In between all that we are required to do, the monotony, the obligation, there are moments filled with breathtaking beauty if we allow ourselves to just slow down for a moment and drink them in.I've been struggling lately for many reasons, I've been forthcoming about that all. I have to be to preserve my own sanity because that is just how I function. This time of year is hard for me ....more

The Summer School of Rock ~ Tina Turner

There are so very many things going on in the world, with my friends, in my own life right now that I can hardly think straight let alone speak a coherent sentence right now. Garbled nonsense is all that is coming out of me when I try to talk or write about the things that are going on, then I can feel the anxiety rising up and putting its hands around my neck.So. In order to hopefully avoid a full blown panic attack right now, I'm writing this instead ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the hey look it's actually Tuesday edition

Alert the media. I actually have my shit together this week. Sort of ....more

Paper Towns, Teenagers and Remembering What It Was Like

Every summer, I come up with a list of books that I plan to read with the kids. I try to pick books that have all been (or will be) made into movies, so that they can compare and contrast the books with the films. I also try to mix up the material throughout the summer so that there are some classics, some new books, some science fiction, some YA fiction, and so on....more

depression is why i'm going outside right now...

I'll have you know that I have been staring at this blank screen for a while now. I start to type a sentence and then I hit the backspace button until this giant empty space sits in front of me again.I have so much I want to say, so much I need to say, so much that needs to get out of my head, but I hesitate. I hold back.I just do.It's hard, really fucking hard sometimes, to be an advocate for maternal mental health and all the other things I try to fight for when I'm dealing with it here ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Friday - the because why not edition

Waves. Hi. I've been so busy that I haven't even been on the actual computer with more than a hot second to write in days ....more

The Things I Can't Explain to People Who Don't Understand

I read a post this week, a really good one actually, written by a guy who'd lost both of his parents. You can read it here if you're so inclined. It was actually published last year, and it wandered into my newsfeed just now ....more

The Magic of This Day

Twenty three years ago, beneath a sky filled with fireworks, I fell in love with the man who would someday become my husband. He was just a boy, and I was just a girl.As we sat beneath the sky that night, the air filled with twinkling lights, two naive teenagers went from being merely interested in one another to something beyond that. Little did they know that this holiday would be one tied to so many moments of significance in their lives in the years that would follow.We'd have a few more years before everything changed and college began, but even after it did, we'd always find our way back to one another, spend that night staring up at the sky together again.For so many intervening years, it was one introduction after another to the lights in the sky as more children were added to our family ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the day late, quick and dirty edition

Haaaaaaaay. I was gone last week and I didn't take my computer with me and something amazing happened. Ready for it?At no point in the last week did I start twitching in the corner as a result of being without my computer.I think I'm at a point where I'm over the whole social media thing and an occasional break is required for my sanity ....more

5th Annual 30 Day Photo Challenge Contest!!!

It's time! All the hard work that you've all put in for the last 30 days is about to pay off! Thank you all for participating! ...more