DeBie Hive

I am a writer, a doula and a photographer.  A wife, a sister, a daughter, a mother and a friend.  I'm officially a member of the sandwich generation, trying to figure out how to keep it together.  Come along for the's rarely dull around here.

Summer School of Rock - Guns and Roses

There are several albums in the world of music that belong firmly in my personal soundtrack, the running background music of my life thus far.Appetite for Destruction is one of them, without doubt.Oh, hi. We're doing the Summer School of Rock today and Guns and Roses are up.I have a special place in my heart for them because they hit the scene at the exact time that music started to speak to me as more than just notes and words, but as stories told, heartbreak lived, angst documented. Axl was edgy, he was raw, he was the consummate bad boy ....more

When Your Friends Parent Differently Than You Do

I was asked to write about this topic a couple of weeks ago, and I've been tossing it around in my head ever since. In fact, it is something that I have toyed with writing about for years but thus far avoided...and the reason should be fairly obvious, at least to all my fellow non-anonymous writers out there.People take whatever we say personally, even (and seemingly especially) when it isn't about them.In the years that I have been doing this, there have been more than a few occasions where people have been personally insulted by something I wrote. Not a single one of those times was anything I wrote aimed at them, directed at them or had anything to do with them ....more

Mental Illness - are we really in control or are we at the mercy of our minds?

It's been a rough few weeks in the news when it comes to mental health stories, and anyone out there who relates in any way to the demons Robin Williams struggled with has felt it.The reason his death has affected, and it still affecting so many of us is a simply one could be us.Chew on that one for a while, nonbelievers.There is so much rhetoric and argument in the wake of a high profile death, there are always those who chastise those who mourn, there are always those who question the motivations of the person involved, and there is always a vast abundance of people speaking openly about something that they so clearly don't understand.For a few days, I had to make a conscious decision to step back from the updates and the news and the blogs and the rants. I had to make self preservation a priority for myself, which is something that I came to learn the hard was as I've walked the path I have walked in my life. Stories like his are so overwhelming to some of us that it is difficult if not impossible to shut it all out.Our minds don't work like those who enjoy the luxury of complete mental balance and stability ....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the there's a lot pissing me off this week edition

Quick, before I start typing, everyone turn around counterclockwise and chant Beetlejuice. Or something. I got the blue screen of death yesterday and though my computer appears to be working at the moment, I have no idea if it will continue to do so ....more

To my kids, at the beginning of the school year...

I started writing these out a while back, mostly as a way to document the life changes for my children, but also as an homage to what my blog used to be.This here blog didn't start out with legal analysis and rants and medical information and all that. Nope. It started off with mundane stories about my family ....more

The Summary of Summer Science Experiments We Did This Year

At some point I gave up writing the Summer Curriculum posts because I just got too busy, but I was asked if I could compile a list of the science experiments I did with the kids to share here.I can do that.I'm hoping I can remember everything we did....* Animal Kingdom/Classification/Diversity Animal adaptations - we explored how different animals see, eat and defend themselves with simple experiments using toilet paper rolls to simulate vision differences and different common kitchen tools to simulate having different types of ways to eat....more

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the riots, suicide and back to school edition

Hi. It's Wednesday. I have spent the better part of the last 36 hours reflecting on the death of Robin Williams, and devoted my writing to his yesterday, pushing this off until now.I figured you guys would understand.I'm up early, way early, but not by choice ....more

Robin Williams, Mental Illness and a Society That Fails Us All

In the coming days and weeks, there will be many posts written about the life and death of Robin Williams. The news of his death, his life appearing to have ended at his own hands, came as a shock to most of us. A tragic loss for his family, for the entertainment industry, for us all.Any time a celebrity dies, we tend to pause as a collective, not because their death is more important than the death of anyone else the world lost on that given day, but because there is a level of familiarity with them that is uncommon for the average person.There are always those quick to criticize people affected by the death of someone they've never met in person, those who say that the outpouring of grief is false and misplaced, that it is some indication of a society with twisted priorities, that the deaths of celebrities should somehow be of lesser import than the death of the ordinary person ....more

When It Comes From Us

Last week, I asked if there were any topics that my friends and fans were interested in reading about. I asked because my brain is like a giant jiggly bowl of Jello right at the moment and I'm having a harder time than normal focusing on things. Mostly, I'm just constantly distracted ....more

Summer School of Rock - Green Day

Do you have the time to listen to me whine about nothing and everything all at once? I highly suspect that the answer is YES because my Tuesday rants are one of the most popular things around here. I'm channeling Green Day sometimes when I write them ....more