Bereaved and Blessed

I am a mom, writer and group fitness instructor with three children (two here and one in Heaven) finding joy in the journey after dealing with secondary infertility and loss for five years. I have been married to my college sweetheart since 2000 and we live in Chicago, Illinois with our nine-year old son and three-year old daughter.

I have been blogging at Bereaved and Blessed (formerly Four of a Kind) since 2007. My blog is on Redbook Magazine’s Blogroll: The Best Infertility Blogs, allParenting’s Best Infertility Blogs and Circle of Mom’s Top 25 Moms with Inspiring Families. I am a contributing editor for Exhale Literary Magazine, write weekly for The Today Voice and was a speaker at BlogHer `12 in New York City.

I am a wounded healer who is passionate about helping others learning to cope and find joy when life doesn’t go as we hope, dream and plan (whether due to due to infertility, loss, illness and/or other circumstances). I am an American Council on Exercise (A.C.E.) certified Group Fitness Instructor and teaches classes part-time. I love to exercise, run, and practice yoga, all of which have been very therapeutic for me over the years.

Hard Choices

“Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.” ~ All at Once by The Fray I am not going to BlogHer’s annual conference...more

How to Find the Right Workout Program for You

What’s the secret to discovering the right workout program for you? Watch this video to find out… I’m starting to get the hang of this Vlogging thing! ...more

The Morning After

I took this picture, at sunrise on Hilton Head Island, the morning after she died, before I knew she died. ~~~~~~~~~~ I woke up groggy and immediately remembered the voicemail we received upon returning home from our wonderful vacation last night. It was from an old and dear friend’s best friend and I had a painful hunch that her reason for calling wasn’t good ....more


Those three letters make my heart leap and bring a smile to my face. I went there for the first time in 1979. My maternal grandparents retired, decided to move there, and stayed until my grandpa’s death in 1998 ....more

Why Not?

Part of my training as a new...more

What Does it Mean to Be Mentally Ill?

I have been thinking about this question a lot. Especially since being diagnosed with moderate Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) in November 2013. Me? ...more

London on My Mind

I lived there the spring semester of my junior year in college, in this house. It was 1996 and an awesome time to be “across the pond.” Everyone who lived at 21 Pembridge Gardens, which was run by the Butler University Study Abroad program, in partnership with the University of Illinois (where I was student), was American. And though there were a number of my fellow U of I classmates also spending the semester in London, I had only met one of them before, we’d actually known each other back in grad school, and so it was a new and exciting experience for me ....more


One of my favorite movies, The Family Man, a modern-day...more

Guest Post: Are You My Mother? By Audra Dye

Two days from now my good friend Audra and I will be sitting in the audience, with friends, at the third annual Listen to Your Mother – Chicago show. It will be bittersweet for both of us, as we have both auditioned for the show...more

It’s About Time

Last year I was determined to get/stay in shape and shed weight. I even began and maintained, through July, a regular series/blog hop here called the Winter Shed, followed by the Spring Shed and eventually, the Summer Shed. It really helped me to be accountable to myself and the other women who participated ....more