No spring nor summer's beauty hath such grace
As I have seen in one Autumnal face....
~John Donne


October is aways a time of reflection for me.It’s a season of changes as the lazy summer days transform into crisp shortened days accented with warm colors and the promise of graceful changes. It is also my birthday month when celebration is mingled with contemplation. 


October is also a significant month when it comes to my life with Diana. Three years ago in October we took a cruise for the first time as Diana and Lucy. At that time she was on HRT for 10 months and we were both unsure of our new lives. And the trip was wonderful. We were accepted in a world of accepting strangers. I realized on this trip that maybe this might work and it was the beginning of my new normal. 


October is when Diana’s company has it’s annual appreciation weekend in Florida. A time when all her colleagues and spouses come together for fun.An important weekend because while Diana and her colleagues work closely together most of it is done remotely or by telephone. Her business requires a lot of traveling and it is not uncommon to talk to someone every day yet not see them face to face. The first year that the company had this appreciation weekend was three years ago, the same year Scott transitioned. Her workplace knew that Scott was now Diana but now they were meeting her for the first time.  And most were meeting me for the first time. And we were welcomed and loved for who we are both inside and out. She works with an extraordinary group of men and women who are more than just colleagues but people we can call our friends. Friends that love us unconditionally. It was a weekend of acceptance for me and my new life. 


It is now October once again. The air is changing along with the leaves. Pumpkin farms are sprouting up and halloween candy is for sale. My birthday has come and gone and I am now in Florida for our annual fun weekend. I’m excited to see everyone again and catch up with the spouses. We’ll exchange stories about our kids and what is the latest good book we read. Diana and her work team will celebrate the years successes and have a few good laughs over the “oh sh*t” moments. It’ll be a weekend of good food, good drinks and good friends. 


And this weekend, just like the month of October will renew my body and soul. I’ll be reminded how blessed I am to have such a wonderful life filled with love and hope. I will be reminded that how special my relationship with Diana is and that together we have traveled the road of uncertainty and mystery while staying true to our selves and to each other. I will enjoy the company of friends who have showered us with kindness and compassion as good friends do for one another. I will relish in the accomplishments that Diana and her work team have worked so hard on over the year. And most of all I will celebrate me. Something I am not good at doing. It’s uncomfortable to look at me and see my part in our successes and yet I must. It’s important to do. Not only for me but for us. 


October. A month of change. A month of reflection. A month of love. 

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