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An Open Note to Horror Movie Screenwriters

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Dear Horror Movie Screenwriters:

Listen, I am a big fan of the genre since hiding behind the sofa as a child to see Poltergeist and I have been waiting for a good Jewish horror movie since my earliest days of Hebrew school. I even suggested some in past open notes to horror movie screenwriters: Slasher Bat Mitzvah, Slasher Bat Mitzvah II, or Murder at Masada (where campers attempting a sunrise hike are met by the ghost of Elazar ben Yair and chaos ensues).

But please, for the love of G-d, do not mine the extensive emotional pain of stillbirth in order to sell movie tickets.

We were recently watching The Daily Show when a commercial made me jerk my head back towards the screen: "you would have had a twin brother, but he died when you were both back in the womb...By living, you denied it entry into our world...I'm being haunted by someone who's never even been born...He wants to be born now."

Perhaps I'm overly sensitive, but this movie comes out at the same time of year while two friends are mourning twin losses. In one case, it was this very situation--a son who was born still and a daughter who is alive. In the other, it was the neonatal death of both twins, first the boy and much later, the girl. I think about the anguish their parents experienced and wonder how a loss of this nature can be mined for entertainment value. I'm not even going to address the Holocaust undercurrent in the film and that bit of offensiveness since it didn't make it into the commercial.

Movies are often used to educate just as cars are often used as a form of transportation. But no one would confuse modern-day horror movies with being on par with the illuminating possibilities of Milk or Schindler's List just as no one would confuse the cars used in a roller coaster as being an excellent source for getting between point A and point B. After all, what are we supposed to learn from Freddie? Insomnia? What about Jason? Don't send your kids to camp? While arguments can be made about the artistic vision and social commentary early in the genre, recent horror films have moved away from social examination towards simply freaking the shit out of the audience.

There are so many great story lines you can mine for material. The Birds was so utterly horrifying that I still can't see large avian groupings without cringing. Have you considered making something similar with squirrels? Or deer? Undead squirrels and deer? Psycho made it impossible for me to shower when I'm alone at home. Have you considered making a film where a ghost rises out of the toilet, ensuring that the next generation will not be able to defecate in peace?

Because The Unborn is currently smelling strong of emotional exploitation.

As penance, you can peruse the archives of Flotsam or Our Own Creation from last January. Awful But Functioning recounts the week she had with her daughter before her death and how those days repeat on the calendar. Building Heavenly Bridges explains how the grief changes you and how it emerges as fear. A Fifth Season explains how she feels on the outside around other mothers.

These posts tell the truthfulness of loss. This is education without exploitation. This is grief in its rawest form. And I can't think of anything scarier than that.

Please consider how those at home, watching The Daily Show, are going to be emotionally affected by your creation of entertainment when they're confronted by it during a commercial break. And also consider making Slasher Bat Mitzvah II with gratuitous undead squirrel and deer scene.

Thank you,
Melissa

Melissa is the author of the infertility and pregnancy loss blog, Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters. She keeps a categorized blogroll of over 1600 infertility blogs and writes the daily Lost and Found and Connections Abound, a news source for the infertility blogosphere. Her infertility book, Navigating the Land of If, is forthcoming from Seal Press in Spring 2009. She is the keeper of the IComLeavWe

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MLOKnitting 5 pts

I hate to be the one to break this to you, but this is not a new storyline at all.  It has been used in at least one "classic" horror movie - The Changeling.  It has also been used in a lot of bad horror and science fiction.

 Horror, as a genre, is exploitive.  All of it. It wants to play on emotions and make you feel scared and hurt and the most successful horror movies and authors make people truly afraid and traumatized.  

As to the toilet?  Did you never see Willard?  Rats can come up toilets.  Isn't that horrific enough?

MLO / Melissa

A.M.S. 5 pts

I swear, sometimes I think you read my mind.

I've gotten quite adept at finding some important task whenever the ads for this movie come on.  Last night, right in the middle of The Daily Show, which is one of our favorite shows, the ad really stood out and bothered me more than normal.  I noticed that S started talking a little louder than normal during it as well.

It is hard, at any time, to be confronted with anything baby-related.  Twin baby stuff is even harder.  And that's just normal everyday stuff related with living babies. 

I understand that by definition, horror films deal with horrific events, the things that we hope we never have to deal with in real life.  But as I struggle to get through this month of first "anniversaries"...should-have-been-birthday, the first anniversary of my son's death at three days old, the upcoming first anniversary of my daughter's death at three weeks old, it's compounded when, without any warning, I'm hit with the ads for this movie. 

I won't go see this movie.  I mute the volume on the TV as soon as I realize what the ad is.  I turn my head for 30 seconds or change the channel.  But there is something about the thought of a stillborn child being used for entertainment that pokes at the already sore wound in my heart.

Thank you for this.  I'd been wondering if perhaps I was being overly sensitive.  I never would have said anything to anyone about it.  There is a certain amount of relief in knowing that others had the same thought.

A.M.S.

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Lavender Luz 6 pts

I really wish you hadn't brought up the image of the ghost in the toilet. (It's a double-whammy when they are also trying to scare the sh!t out of you.)

You should copy the promotions department on this letter, too.  We can always not see the movie, but, as you point out, it's harder to not see the trailers.

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KJDougherty 5 pts

Very well said. Not that I'm a big horror movie fan, but I think this movie is simply ridiculous.

- Kim

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loribeth 5 pts

Thank you, thank you!  I blogged about this movie awhile back http://theroadlesstravelledlb.blogspot.com/2008/12... I just couldn't believe my eyes & ears when I saw that trailer, and to say I was offended is putting it mildly.

Thank you so much for bringing this issue to the attention of a broader audience. What happened to me & other stillbirth mothers was horrifying enough. At the same time, our experiences -- our children -- should NOT be fodder for a horror movie. We need understanding & compassion from others about what we went through -- and we have enough problems getting that from our families & friends, without having them equate our experience with a horror movie, & our precious babies with some otherworld malevolent beings. :(