OUCH......GOSSIP......

Just what is Gossip…..?Well, it is pretty simple….It is where two or more people get together to talk about someone else….often filled with faulty information…..If the information is factual it can still be gossip when it is meant to be used as entertainment rather than problem solving…Most gossip is mean spirited and can be hurtful to another person…..

So many people jump on the first opportunity to gossip about someone else….or at least listen to gossip….It takes two people to Gossip….not one….It takes a Talker and a Listener…So why do people gossip if it hurts another person…? Well, it is pretty simple…The gossipers simply don’t have much else to do that they find worthy of their time….They also likely don’t feel real good about themselves so talking about someone else momentarily makes them feel good, sort of…An empty “feel good”….

Gossipers come in all shapes and sizes and pretty much in any walk of life….Gossip can be created for any reason and generally little good comes from it…..So how does one handle gossip when they are in its presence?

Pretty simple, Change the subject if possible….and it is usually possible…..Avoid even listening to the garbage that is being spewed because it is so easy to want to know more…and before you know it you have become an active participant in it because you knowingly allowed yourself to get sucked into it…;…..Even gossipers don’t respect other gossipers……sort of like one crook doesn’t trust another crook even if they are teaming up.

I saw a famous actress put on the spot during a TV interview….Another actor was having a scuffle with some media….The interviewers immediately were commenting on what was happening with the actor and turned the attention onto the actress asking her what she thought. They were expecting her to say something bad about him….Instead, she simply said “My what a great actor he is” and left it at that….She didn’t allow herself to get sucked into what they were trying to pull her into….Bravo  to her….!

That is how we should all be….like that actress……Simply moving onto a positive subject that will create positive results in our lives….People respect people who do not gossip…People respect people who are doing great things in their lives….And great things require the right focus and avoiding the wrong focus…..Gossip is wrong focus…..

So the next time someone tries to pull you into a gossip situation…..do your best at excusing yourself…..Saying you have to go to the  bathroom is always a good one……or even better yet….Say something really nice about the person being gossiped about….That will usually stop the gossip right there in it’s tracks….

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