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One of my early photographs during the self-portrait month is below -- and admittedly, I didn't stick with it as well as I should have. But I promise, I tried.

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As we wrap up a month of discussing imperfection here on the Own Your Beauty initiative, I can't help but be incredibly blown away by all of the thoughts and images you guys have shared with us over the past month. I love seeing you guys really get it: the concept that if we live in a world where its great variety is what gives it its great beauty, that when it comes to the physical, there are no such things as flaws, merely differences -- and, in fact, it is all of our differences that add to the complex beauty of the world.

Which, you know, is just sort of immensely awesome.

It's like the beautiful Bonnie said in her contribution to this month's topic:

As women, we are bombarded by ads and advice for products or remedies designed to cover gray, lift your butt, reduce the appearance of wrinkles, make scars go away, make your boobs look bigger, flatten your tummy, and in every possible way, minimize your imperfections. As mothers we must consider a whole other list of “must-have” products to minimize stretch marks and other pregnancy-caused changes. We worry our lives away about all these imperfections, each mark upon our bodies, never once stopping to consider them as the story of our lives, of who we are, etched into our bodies by Mother Nature herself. We are told through visual images, subtle words and sometimes even outright statements that we must fight against these things because they make us imperfect.

The fact is that we don't have to fight this implied war. Because there isn't a problem to begin with.

Every mark on my body tells my story: The scar on my forehead speaks of the time when I was two and needed stitches for running into a wall at full force. The stretch marks on my inner thighs tell of my incredible growth spurt when I was 14. The scar on my wrist tells of when I had surgery to remove a small ganglion cyst. And the stretch marks, well, everywhere else, tell of my first pregnancy, the one which changed every aspect of my being from soul to belly. They tell of the water I retained, and the amazing little girl who grew inside me. They are a part of me. Imperfect. Beautiful.

Alleluia and amen, man. I couldn't have said this better myself.

So, last month, I challenged you to start taking self-portraits, in an experiment of self-exploration, for you to start seeing how beautiful the people around you perceive you. Thanks to all of you who shared your awesome self-portraits; also, so many of you shared such wonderful thoughts in the process. For example, Erin, of Living Happily Ever After? mused that she had lost her "me-ness." She said, "I have forgotten what makes me special. So that is my goal for the next month. Rediscover my me-ness. Who I am." Happily, the following day, she posted a self-portrait of herself and said, "Anyway, my favourite feature is my eyes. I generally do not like not smiling pictures of myself, but this one seems different. The focus on that right eye appeals to me for some reason."

See? This is exactly what the exercise does: It allows you to look at yourself as a person who loves you would. Which, really, you should, you know?

But the photos -- oh, the photos! -- that you shared with us in the Own Your Beauty Flickr pool. They were so amazing. Some favorites:

Self Portrait Collage Nov2010 #1

"Over the past few years, I've become comfortable wearing little to no make-up. Also, I've become more authentic in my writing

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romanticallychallengedpeople 5 pts

we should enhance what's already there,accept it,and not accept someone's definition of you as reality since its just perception,god dont make junk.

TheSecondAct 5 pts

I ran across your article and I say a BIG THANK YOU!

How refreshing. In my youth I never seemed too concern with body image. As my parts have begun to go south....no... I am sorry...they have fallen in the deep crevice!!!! I have had to readjust my idea of beauty. I know longer obsess over the added weight... my wrinkles are my "purple hearts, medals of honor, and proof of life".

We are made in the image of God....when I think of all the different shapes and sizes we are..It reminds me of His multi-faceted character. Halleluiah!

Gwenn 5 pts

I don't know if this had anything to do with the "Own Your Beauty" initiative, but in September there was a "No Make-Up Week" ( http://rabbitwrite.com/no-make-up-week/ ) blogging event. I enjoyed it even though I've never worn make-up. Fascinating discussions...

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Gwenn Seemel is an artist who blogs ( http://www.gwennseemel.com/index.php/blog/ ) bilingually about all the faces she makes while painting faces.

JennaHatfield 162 pts

I also fell off the wagon mid-month. The boys' birthdays are the 17th and 24th. Their party was the 20th. I was awash in making their days special, so my focus wasn't really on me starting mid-month.

BUT... I loved this homework. I wish I could have kept up with it more. Looking forward to some creativity next month. Hopefully I'll be able to keep up with it as well. December is... well, December!

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.