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Pam is a stay-at-home mama of four-year-old twins. She has a PhD in Psychology, oodles of creative energy, some weight she'd like to drop if it's easy and happens by magic, too many pairs of impractical shoes, and a love of words.

 
 
 
 

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200 Pounds of Pride in a Bikini

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There are so many ways we women torture ourselves about our bodies. Especially after we have babies and get that super-chic poochy belly thing. (I have always been a little Victorian in my shape, so perhaps I felt that particular grief less than others!) Now we even have opposing camps of body-politics pros, telling us we should be thinner; be comfortable with not being thin; be fat but healthy; know that there is no such thing but fat and healthy, and so on. Of course, all we're doing is complicating the dialogue about (1) self-acceptance and (2) self-care, instead of letting them be simple, ingrained truths we live every day.

As for this post, it's all about number 1 -— and it's fantastic. Pam challenged herself to accept her body in the best way -— with a bikini and a smokin' photo shoot with her sister. As this summer wraps up and we put our bathing suits away, we should all vow to find our own version of this self-love stunt to do for next year.

She writes:

A few weeks ago, according to the oddly addictive blogger stats page, someone found my blog by typing “200 pounds bikini” into google. Curious, I tried that search, and then immediately wished I hadn’t. The first result was Urban Dictionary’s entry for “bikini beef,” the extra bulges resulting “when the wearer exceeds the legal bikini wearing limits.” The second result was someone relatively thin asking the Yahoo Answers community how she looks in a bikini, with a bunch of strangers criticizing her body in response. Results 3 and 4 were people talking about losing weight in order to be able to wear a bikini. My “Rock your bikini” post was #5. The 6th link was a female blogger who feels “VERY STRONGLY” that there should be a size limit on bikinis, using words like “disgusting” to describe women like me.

You've got to head over to PamaramaDingDong to see all the great photos. Beautiful.

Pam in a bikini

Image Credit: Lifescape Photo and Video



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Rachelrooo 5 pts

I love the idea of the thing inside that makes all women beautiful, and how it gets more awesome with age.

kgecik 5 pts

Being beautiful is one thing as yes you are, but being overweight is another. It is not a lifestyle to accept or glorify and I refuse to do so.

wittnie 5 pts

So encouraging! I wish everyone had this much sense about what truly matters. Our society is so twisted. You look amazing & I adore your convidence!

Choosing Love 5 pts

Your are beautiful, brave, and inspiring!

victorias_view 157 pts moderator

Love this! It is about self acceptance and sometimes all of the media singles get blurry and confusing about what is healthy weight. I love that you stepped forward and showed how to rock a bikini! You look amazing!

midnightbliss 7 pts

she is beautiful and an inspiration to plus sized women.

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Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

I guess that's a big part of why I don't have a pic of myself on my blog. I want my writing to be what's important. Not my picture, not what I look like, what my kids look like, what I drive, etc. Just the words.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

No, and I'm not knocking what she did or if anyone else wants to do the same or has. But I try to remember something my father always told me. Show your self worth in all you do. And to remember that the world will only treat you with the amount of self worth you show you have and only in the way you show it. He meant that if your sense of self worth is just about your sexiness, then that is all the world will see. And that is all the world will treat you with. I don't want to be seen as just a pretty tall thin sexy woman (no, I'm not being egotistical here, nor does my height or weight have to do with whether or not I'm pretty). I want to be seen as more. But if that's what you are into, then rock on. To each their own.

Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima
Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima

Absolutely...we have to STOP having the media define what is beautiful and acceptable...

Lisa Brawner
Lisa Brawner

love it ! very inspiring article

Trish Sammer Johnston
Trish Sammer Johnston

She is my hero!

Kayla Noel
Kayla Noel

i love her and her ability to do this. i hope all these little girls with self esteem issues look at that and think how beautiful she is. i'd like to give that woman a hug.

Monique Aimee Dyer
Monique Aimee Dyer

No. Not with my weight. I don't have enough nerve no confidence.

Danielle Fabulosity
Danielle Fabulosity

I ONLY wear bikinis. It's my curvy, sexy, voluptuous body and I LOVE it! I'm gonna wear bikinis until I can't anymore (like 80 or 90 y.o. lol) P.S. My Mom is 70 and rocks her bikinis every summer. Woo hoo!

Jacklin Hinds Goines
Jacklin Hinds Goines

More power to her! I'm 150-160 & no courage!

Chantelle Dessart
Chantelle Dessart

Yeah Erin you are right there for sure but really people can be confident in different fields on different things but yes I do agree with you there.

Alaia Williams
Alaia Williams

I've never felt comfortable, at any size, in a bikini. So more power to those who do and are willing to photograph it :-)

Chantelle Dessart
Chantelle Dessart

she's braver than me ther cuz I wouldn't ! I think the less pictures of me the better! Still well done to her

Shelley Stanton
Shelley Stanton

I applaud her. Im not brave enough to wear a bikini at any size. I admire people with a good self image. Its very healthy.

Louise M. Bannon
Louise M. Bannon

Beautiful!

Felicia Orio Horton
Felicia Orio Horton

I would if people dont like what they see then dont look

Raquel Exceptional Dennie
Raquel Exceptional Dennie

She looks awesome in her photos.

Donna Freedman
Donna Freedman

Go, lady. Your husband is a lucky man.

Erin Kendrick Browne
Erin Kendrick Browne

I'm a boudoir photographer and this right here is exactly why I take those photos. Women deserve to feel beautiful and confident in their own skin. I applaud this woman for throwing aside the unrealistic "ideals" of what is considered beautiful. SHE is beautiful.

Guinevere Frasca
Guinevere Frasca

I hope more stories of this kind of confidence are what my young (very very young) daughters will see and remember as they grow up.

Debi Nine-Kids
Debi Nine-Kids

Wow. She really is beautiful. I wish I had half her confidence.

Joy In This Journey
Joy In This Journey

YES! But I'd stay on my stomach so no-one could see my stretch marks. :D

Melissa Fresoni
Melissa Fresoni

Awesome for her. She should be able to do what she wants. I applaud her for her bravery and sincerity. Her smile says it all! KUDOS!

Whitney Burdine
Whitney Burdine

I wish everyone had this much sense, our society is so twisted. I adore your confidence, you are beautiful!!

Robin Cleveland Braun
Robin Cleveland Braun

Nnnnoooooo.

Mary Trejo Muniz
Mary Trejo Muniz

Bahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO!

Maria Nicholson Smithson
Maria Nicholson Smithson

Sure, why not? Gotta love yourself.

Jo Hilder
Jo Hilder

Why not. I think I will!

Karen Kelley Mares
Karen Kelley Mares

No, but if you have the confidence to do it, you carry on with your bad self. Booya.

Yolinda Carroll
Yolinda Carroll

Hell no.

Krissi's Art Studio
Krissi's Art Studio

I WISH I had her confidence! And you know, she looks amazing - I love her smile.

Victorious BrokenMoms
Victorious BrokenMoms

She is SMOKIN HOT in this pic... heavy or not! <3

Jill Seiman
Jill Seiman

no but props to her for having the confidence. the pictures are pretty

Kimberly Morales
Kimberly Morales

Personally, I wouldn't dare, not even when I was super thin. BUT, I LOVE that she's able to do this! Good for her for knowing herself & rocking the body she's comfortable in!

Skinny Mom's Kitchen
Skinny Mom's Kitchen

Me...heck no...her...go girl work it!

Beth Anne Brink-Cox
Beth Anne Brink-Cox

She looks wonderful!

Tanya Greer Breese
Tanya Greer Breese

i totally applaud her for being so confident in her own skin! that's awesome!

Becca Heflin
Becca Heflin

not in a million years

Nora Breitenstein
Nora Breitenstein

I'm a fat girl myself and no way would I ever do this!