Stepping Out of My Comfort Zone to Meet Other Moms
This past fall, I was invited by a family member to join in a MoPS program at Fellowship Bible Church in Dallas. For those of you who are unfamiliar, MoPS stands for Mothers of Preschoolers, although the moms who attend have a wide range of children (including those who are expecting!). It's a program designed for moms of all different situations to be a part of a community.
When it began this past September, I honestly wasn't sure what to expect, and had some reservations. I was going completely out of my element by going to an event where I'd only know 2 people. I'm not very good at socializing or mingling, so I usually avoid these situations if at all possible. Since Mark's arrival, if I want to meet new people, I've been trying to do better about stepping into these situations!
This wasn't my church. I'd known going in that most of the women would probably know each other from their own small groups or Sunday morning classes, and it was intimidating to know that we wouldn't have any mutual friends or mutual church experiences. Plus, I almost felt like I was cheating on Richardson East, my church! (Sorry John!)
I knew I was going to be leaving my son in the hands of strangers for the first time. I routinely drop him off at our own church nursery on Sundays, but with women whom I know. The only other people he'd been left with were grandparents and family members. Leaving him for three hours (even if in the same building) was going to be a little stressful and a learning experience!
Our first meeting was on September 9th, and I left at noon that day feeling completely rejuvenated as a mom! From the moment I arrived, I was welcomed into a group of 8 other women who treated me as if they'd always known me. When they asked who I was and questions about my personal life, I felt as if they were genuinely interested in getting to know me and in what I had to say. Not once during the entire program did I feel like a stranger.
At each MoPS meeting, speakers would address parenting techniques, ways to manage stress, and stories from the male point-of-view. They were lively and interesting topics that frequently sparked conversations among our tables. We were able to share some of our problems that we were facing as moms and were able to give and get great advice from moms who'd been there or who were going through the same issues. I found that each time I left, I wanted to go home and be the best wife and mother I could be!
As the program rolled on, all of my concerns about going to MoPS slowly died away. Through socializing, I was able to get to know the one other person at my table who attended Richardson East on a deeper level. I discovered that other women in the group also wanted to have a Freezer Party, and we began a group (which you have to do if you're not a part of one!). I'd discovered that my Baby Boot Camp instructor also attended the same MoPS program; which also lead us to find out we lived on the same street! And during every meeting, not once did I have any concerns about leaving the Little Man. I knew he was in another room in a great children's environment with people who remembered his name. This reassurance allowed me to really enjoy the "adult time" I was having.
Thanks to MoPS, I've had some great experiences and have met some amazing people! If you're looking for a way to meet some other moms in your area and to share your experiences with, I highly suggest MoPS! You can find one in your area by clicking here. Or, I'd love to invite you to visit mine!Have you participated in a MoPS program before and how was your experience? What ways do you find other moms to journey with?