Pay Equity is the Starting Point
Achieving equal pay for equitable work seems like a reasonable goal, and yet, should women finally arrive at parity in salary, we will still have a long way to go to realize true equality. As a divorced mother of 2 teenage daughters, and their legally designated primary custodial parent, the economics of raising children go far beyond simple pay equity.
In this state, the person providing child support must carry health insurance for the children. Yet, I take the children to medical appointments, and I pay any bills. Yet, I cannot process any claims and any money that is reimbursed, goes to the insured. I pay, He profits. With this in mind, I've appealed to the judge twice to allow me to carry the insurance for our children, which would be $200 cheaper per month. Request denied; no reason evident.
So the father gets the control, and the mother is left with all the responsibility for both care and costs. We have a long way to go to arrive at equity. Mothers, usually by societal default and/or personal preference, must coordinate and pay for child care coverage, clothing, extra curricular activities—and not just the direct economics, but the time it takes to shop, plan, return, organize and manage transportation to and from various activities. It is these transparent costs that continue to prevent many women from gaining economic parity. It is particularly so among single moms, many of whom suffer from lack of support from deadbeat dads, and a court system not capable of enforcing “good behavior”. And, few moms would just walk about from their responsibility, so the bulk of the costs-- both the direct and indirect, are born by women.