Perfect Imperfection

by Rhonda Chaney   Email:


If you have kids, you hopefully strive to be a great parent.  I want to be a great mom, so I worry about silly things that probably don’t matter to my kids.  Do I do enough of this or that, do I provide everything they need, expose them to the right opportunities,  feed them the right foods, help enough with homework, help them set goals, and do I show them how to dream?  The list goes on and on.

 But then I think of my mom.  She was the best mom ever … at least for me.  I lost her to cancer before I had my first child.  My loss was heaven’s gain.  My mom is a perfect example of how we parents don’t have to be perfect!  Although she was the best, I’ll continue by sharing some ugly snapshots of my childhood to make a point.

 She divorced my alcoholic, abusive father when I was four.  She remarried when I was five, and we moved over a dozen times before I graduated from high school.  She always had to work, so I was a latch-key kid with minimal supervision.  My step-dad was Jekyll and Hyde – which resulted in ‘lots of drama, with emotional highs and lows.  Fighting, money problems, and many other sorted issues – all ensued.  I don’t think mom worried about how healthy our meals were, or if I got my homework completed – that was the least of her concerns.

 Sure it was less than ideal, but at the end of the day I don’t think that mattered.  Why?  Because my mom cared about the important stuff.  She did the things that meant the most.  She was the classiest and most loving lady I’ve ever met.  She was kind, empathetic, fun-loving, optimistic, faithful, and she loved her kids with all her heart.  Love covers all wrongs, like a big, fuzzy blanket.

 If she could be so perfectly imperfect…I guess I should stop worrying so much.  I’m just going to follow her lead and focus on what I’ve been taught…“faith, hope and love – and the greatest of these is love”.  I believe that’s enough


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