Permitting Teenage Sleepovers: PART DEUX
I love when people comment on my posts. And this one seemed to have hit a nerve, which I also love. I didn’t think that there would be such a wide array of opinions on the question; “Would you allow your teenage daughter, or son, to sleep in the same room as their boyfriend or girlfriend, in your home?”
The comments that surprised me the most were those that through my living situation up in my face. I live with my boyfriend (in sin) so why shouldn’t the same hold true for the Girlfriend Mom teenager? Really? This is the same? Not to me. To me, there is a huge ass difference between a 40-year old adult and an 18-year old teenager. Parent. Child. My house. My rules.
But as I thought more about it, an interesting question arose. What is the cut-off? When do parents consider their teenagers adults? And when do parents start treating their teenagers like an adult? When do parents allow their child and his or her significant other to sleep in the same bedroom, if ever? I wondered how much of it came down to values, morals, rules, or good old personal preference.
When I took on the role of Girlfriend Mom, I came to the party knowing absolutely nothing about parenting, and I had absolutely nothing to compare it to. I have been flying by the seat of my Athleta yoga pants since day one. The above situation is no different. I listen to my gut, as it’s all that I have, and for the most part, it has served me well. I believe that there will come a day when I’ll be comfortable with my Girlfriend Mom daughter sleeping in the same room with her boyfriend (or girlfriend) but it won’t be for any other reason than, time has done its job.
Read original post here with the interesting comments