Pervs are pigs!

I hate to insult pigs but as you can see it's one of the things that makes me boil with anger. I look at pictures of who they say is me when I was little, I don't recognize me. I see a little girl who I feel sorry for, I see sadness even beneath the smiles. She was being sexually abused on a regular basis by my grandma's husband, I don't say my grandpa because he was my dads step-father not my grandpa. I can't believe it happened, I just don't know how, he had done it to other's and no one saved me. This went on for years and I'm letting you in a personal place so we can learn how to protect our children. Because this happened to me, I am really protective of with who and where my children go. Always ask questions to them and we discuss sexual abuse regularly, what's ok and what's not. You see I just didn't know that I didn't have to listen to someone who was doing these things to me. Teaching our kids that "No" is ok when things are happening that make them feel uncomfortable, it's a very powerful word. My mom didn't know either, it was thirty something years ago, and she was newly divorced from my dad and had to go to work. She couln't have known where she was sending me, what could be safer then your grandparents house? This is why it is so important to ask questions to your kids without being aggressive, sort of nonchalantly, and making sure they know what parts of their bodies are private. I think another important point is that we tend to believe that only men are sexual abusers and that is not true although there are less women abusers, it happens. Always discuss that fact with your children, so that they know women touching them is also inappropriate. Studies show that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused by the time they turn 18 and only 1 in 10 children abused will tell someone. Shame, embarrassment, fear and confusion keep them silent. In fact, more than 90% of abusers are people children know, love or trust, this all according to d2l.org. Which brings me back to that time, this man was not mean to me as a matter of fact he was very nice. Sexual abusers look for a child that is unaware and unarmed, and they groom them before they attack. So, lets start talking to our children about what a secret is and the difference between a secret and a surprise.

7 Steps to Protecting Our Children from Sexual Abuse

You can check out more tips and read so much more about sexual abuse from d2l.org. I hope this has helped you in some way, I didn't write this to offend anyone but to bring awareness. Let's have our children enjoy just being kids and not have to deal with all the pain sexual abuse brings along with it.

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