Platonic Politics: Inviting an Ex to Your Wedding

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People are in an uproar because Prince William and Kate Middleton, 

wedding trendsetters of the 21^st century, are (gasp!) inviting their exes to their wedding. People just can’t seem to jump on board with this one, which tells me there are one too many unrepaired, broken hearts out there. If these wedding icons can say to their amorous past, “Let bygones, be bygones,” it’s a little bit of egg on the face to those who can’t.

To be fair, not all exes are made of post-relationship friend material. Some unhealthy relationships and people should stay where they are – out of sight and out of mind. When Kelsey Grammar invited his ex-wife Camille to his wedding with the woman he abruptly left her for, I’m willing to agree that his invitation might have been too much, too soon. And when it was reported that Princess Diana was scouring the pews for Camilla Parker as she was walking down the aisle to her own wedding; the problem wasn’t having an ex at the wedding, it was that Prince Charles and Diana shouldn’t have been getting married in the first place.

Gone are the days when the officiant asks, “If anyone knows of a reason why the couple should not wed, please speak now or forever hold your peace,” (this phrase may have been what incited the whole ex-at-your-wedding paranoia). Inviting exes to a wedding (or going as an ex) shouldn’t be to stop the wedding, save face, be smug or distract the bride or groom.

Will and Kate have been dating each other for just under a decade. They’ve had ample time to repair broken hearts with past beaus, develop platonic friendships and establish a strong relationship together, even become friends with their each other’s old beaus. This shows a maturity level and logic beyond the irrational reaction our hearts often take after a break up.

However according to an article by Lois Smith Brady in The New York Times, peace agreements with exes or even friendships are only an upper class thing; apparently us “lower-class folks” ain’t got the sophistimacation to do the same. William Norwich, a special correspondent at Town and Country magazine said, “It is