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The Pope and Sex Scandals: The Damage Can't Be Underestimated

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Many Roman Catholics are upset, hurt, angry, disappointed. And when they look to the Vatican for leadership, many feel that Pope Benedict has not fared well.

The sex scandals just don't stop. The New York Times announced that the Pope knew of abuse and concealed it. Others point to reforms he has made in screening applicants for the clergy, in seminaries and in formation of groups to deal with allegations.

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Maureen Dowd said, also in the Times:" At the moment, the only thing between Catholics and God is a defensive church hierarchy that cannot fully acknowledge and heal the damage it has done around the globe. How can the faithful enjoy Easter redemption when a Good Friday service at the Vatican was more concerned with shielding the pope than repenting the church’s misdeeds?"

Let's understand something about the Catholic Church. It used to be the equivalent of a World Power. It has often seen itself as a self-contained entity, complete and entire in itself, much like a government. After all, the pope has diplomatic immunity (so far) as a head of state -- The Vatican. When priests have been disciplined for sexual abuse, it has been largely internal. Many church leaders seem to have been surprised, back when the abuse scandals started to surface, to hear that they should have reported these priests to the police. Why? They had the means to handle things internally! It was (and is) an odd mindset. It is not feeling one is "above" the law, but rather that one IS the law. After all the Catholic Church and its complex structures existed long before the USA.

Further, Catholics have felt comfortable staying within the church even if they disagreed with certain policies/principles of the church -- such as freedom of choice, birth control, the role of women. It is not unlike feeling as though one can stay on as an American even if one does not support the war, or some government policy. When you are Catholic, it isn't about being a member of something. It is about being a Catholic, like being an American. It isn't like other Christian choices. The culture is very different. It can be more like an identity.

Genie, a BlogHer Contributing Editor, writes of this in her blog. She describes taking people to a memorial garden outside her church in Oakland, built by survivors of sexual abuse by priests. She is troubled deeply by the latest scandal, and has held on as a Catholic for many years. Her uncle is a deeply honorable priest. But she is shaken again with the latest tide of accusations, and says:

" I've managed to reconcile, for years, my pro-choice beliefs, my support for marriage equality, my assertion that there is zero reason that women should not be priests, with my ability to still attend Mass and be fulfilled by its ritual power...
I am a woman who always harbors hope for good, for better, for change. But I noted, this year, that I didn't bother attending Ash Wednesday Mass. That I ignored Easter. That I ate meat on every Friday in Lent. I noted, this year, that I've stopped singing at the Cathedral, that I don't go to Mass anymore, and that even thinking about the current Pope spikes my blood pressure."

The scandals and the effect they have had on the laity cannot be underestimated. My sister-in-law went to Catholic school all through high school. She said "These were the guys we looked up to. They had God's ear in a special way -- they were the conduits from and to God. They were holy men, and we knew we could trust them absolutely. They were representatives directly from God to us. We recently found out that Monseigneur XXYY was a pedophile. He used to hug me as a kid. Do I feel betrayed? Hell, yes! That and sick to my stomach."

A lot of people are affected by these scandals. There is a great deal written about the direct victims and the perpetrators, as there should be -- but the news effects every Catholic. It changes the way they look at their priests. They wonder now. Some are wondering if they should stay in the Church. Some are wondering what this means about faith in general. We are just now getting a glimpse of how many people have been rocked by

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mrsL 6 pts

http://catholicism.about.com/b/2010/03/29/the-pope-and-fr-murphy-fact-fiction-and-anti-catholic-bias.htm

 

You might want to get your facts straight about Father Murphy and Pope Benedict.  The NYT did, as usual, another unfounded hatchet job.   

Mata H 5 pts

Lots of people say lots of things. The most important things, it seems to me, are to take care of those who are hurting, and to prevent further crimes such as these. There are enough real things to be concerned about, so I prefer to keep the focus here on healing.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Mata H 5 pts

Yes, there are outraged people within the RCC who share your feelings. Thank you for understanding the upheaval many also feel.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

MLOKnitting 5 pts

The Roman See has condemned itself. Every new bit of information condemns Ratzinger further.

Vatican exorcists have said that "the smoke of Satan" has invaded the Vatican. Perhaps this is but a part of what has been hidden from the eyes of mankind for a millenia.

MLO / Melissa

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Busy Mom 5 pts

Actually, God was behind the whole "Vicar of Christ" thing. It was founded on His words to St. Peter.

Busy Mom Blog ( http://busymom.net )

LND 5 pts

Mata,

Thank you for reminding me to have compassion for those who are struggling with their faith amidst the chaos.

That does not mean that I temper my outrage at the decades of cover up when the church chose to protect itself over children. Nor does it temper my outrage as members of the Church, or those representing the church, point the finger at the LGBT community as the cause for the abuse.

I simply agree that there are faithful in the church who are as outraged as I am and they are struggling with some very hard questions/decisions.

Mata H 5 pts

You are 100% right.

Mata

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Mata H 5 pts

"Salacious coverage" describes it accurately. There is enough plain tragedy to go around without having to add embellishment or bashing.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Amelia E. Adler 5 pts

Thank you. I hope it all will come to an end and that there will be some good pulled out of it - at least the resolution what is there to do to prevent such things from happening in the future.

bisous,
Amy.

CherylK 5 pts

...abusers DO come in all roles and we do need to educate our children about all of them.

It's just that many of these particular abusers have been protected by the Vatican. They should have been reported by the church, arrested, convicted (if guilty) and jailed.

"If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere"

Lake Mary Musings ( http://www.lakemarymusings.com )

neakycan 5 pts

I had a long post but it started to come unraveled All I say is educate yourself and your kids and all kids on how to protect yourself abusers come in all roles.

Lisa Stone 77 pts

"God doesn't really care what those guys do," the boy's statement remembered by Her Bad Mother, may be one of the most heartbreaking quotes I've ever read about these crimes, reflecting the ultimate loss of faith in a system by a child, even as it reflects his belief in God.

Hearing the voices of The Anchoress, Conversion Diary, and Her Bad Mother together provide a pretty profound framing for my thinking.

Even as my heart bleeds for children and families exposed to this ultimate abuse of power, I'm fatigued by salacious coverage and hopeful that Jennifer of Conversion Diary's admonition for reporters to stick to their knitting will be heard.

Mata, thank you for this compassionate and beautiful post.

Lisa Stone
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Mata H 5 pts

Well, the verdict is still out about how much this Pope knew...but I agree that he could be more agressively visible with this issue as far as civil prosecution goes.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Mata H 5 pts

I read your post and think you are right-on. Folks need more reassurance, more vividly expressed that justice will be done, and safeguards will be put in place. It can be argued that many safeguards have been put in place, but if the laity do not know that -- well, they still suffer.

Thanks for your comment -

Mata

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Mata H 5 pts

I was raised in a Polish American Roman Catholic church. So I understand a lot of what you say quite deeply. Thanks for sharing your experience and your dilemma. What is happening right now raises some very complex questions. I hope you, and all Catholics affected by this, find some peace.

Mata

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Mata H 5 pts

I think we need to be careful to listen as faithful people to the pain of our Catholic brothers and sisters. After all, we are all beloved children of God. It is getting too easy to Catholic-bash. I hope we can all stay away from that. However, in what you said, I sense that you are referring to the strong hierarchy in the Catholic church that may have overestimated their own authority in this case, right?

Mata

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

CherylK 5 pts

I think it's all just horrible and the Vatican has exacerbated the situation by sweeping so much under the rug. Nobody should be that powerful...

"If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere"

Lake Mary Musings ( http://www.lakemarymusings.com )

Florinda 7 pts

Thanks for this round-up. You're quite right: "being Catholic" is a matter of identity, whether or not one is practicing Catholicism. Some of the thoughts expressed here are similar to my own, which were the topic of a post on my personal blog today:

http://www.3rsblog.com/2010/04/brand-management-catholic-church-and-me.html

The Church is in the midst of a public-relations nightmare, and doesn't seem to get that. It REALLY doesn't seem to grasp the bigger issues that underlie that PR nightmare.

Florinda

Blogging at The 3 R's: Reading, 'Riting, and Randomness ( http://www.3rsblog.com/ )

Amelia E. Adler 5 pts

I am Catholic and I come from a country where 99% of the population is either Catholic or atheist having Catholic background. The government is conservative, the people are as well, we've got churches on every street corner and religon in schools (however, of course, for non-Catholics there is an option of Ethics instead religion classes). And the preamble of our Constitution contains the references to God.
It doesn't surprise me that about sex scandals in Church I found out because I follow foreign news services on Twitter like New York Times, BBC News or Le Figaro. True, there was couple of articles in our press as well, but I can compare the extent of news coverage here and abroad. While there is on article in our press per, say, two days, there is at least five of them in foreing press.
I think that tells something about us. I also think it's sad.

Me, personally, I am revolted not so much by the sex scandals - you can call me insensitive or heartless, but I always knew there were abusers in Church, just like I know there are abusers in any large group of people; we hold priests to a higher standards because they are supposed to be our shepherds, they are supposed to be morally superior; but in fact they're merely human and vices and every possible twisted and sick behaviour exist among them as well. I understand that and while I condemn the perpetrators and feel for the victims, I am not surprised.

What I am revolted by is the reaction of Vatican. They've let me down. These scandals - they should be put front and center, they should be apologized for, there should be a show of humiliation and remorse, there should be a discussion saying "what will we do to prevent this from ever happening again?". It shouldn't be concealed, hidden, it shouldn't be referred to as internal affairs and "petty gossip". It should be resolved.

You know, after John Paul II died I struggled a lot to give a chance to a new guy, and believe me - it ain't easy (I am a girl of the generation JP2; plus, for us, Poles, John Paul II was someone really special). I ended up giving him a great deal of confidence and trust. And now he's failing that trust. It hurts.

He is supposed to be the only infallible man (I know it applies only to words ex cathedra, but still). But when I see how he's reacting to this whole mess, I cannot help but wonder... everyone makes mistakes, even popes (this applies to our Pope too; the fact that I loved Him so much does not mean I don't see his errors). But if so, who can guarantee me that everything Church is trying to convince me of - everything the so-called Tradition brings - who can guarantee me it's all true? Why should I believe a man who can't stand up and admit that his Church isn't perfect and who marginalize the problem, instead of facing it...?

I already had my doubts. It only confuses me more.

ciao,'
Amy.

Shannon Sissom Olson 5 pts

I was raised Catholic, I am now, however, Baptist. I believe the problem the Catholic church is suffering from, which is indeed so very heinous, comes from the root, they believe tradition is on equal footing with scripture. Pope Innocent III proclaimed the pope to be the vicar of Christ. Anytime you place man on equal footing with our God and Savior or place man's faulty opinion as equal with God's word, you are going to have issues, big ones! Those issues will not be resolved or even addressed properly until these lies are dealt with and repented of, to hold the pope accountable is to hold him to his humanity which will tear down the hierarchy of the Catholic church. They will lose their control. My heart aches for those in the pews who are being led astray and for those who have been hurt. Christ will separate the sheep from the goats, and moast goats will be within the church. To God and God alone be the glory. Prayers to the members of the Catholic church, may you be comforted by the healing words of Christ.