A Positive Approach to Parenting: How to Laugh More and Yell Less
The following is a guest post by Robert Zeitlin, Psy.D., Licensed Psychologist.
‘Why is parenting so hard?’
I hear this question all the time. My wife and I are raising two teenagers on the Main Line and I helped start a parenting series in 2010. Sure, there are books and websites and lectures but it’s a little embarrassing to ask for help when none of those solve your problem or answer your burning question. And to make things worse, we argue with our spouses about making parenting decisions.
In my experience, every mother and father has a set of untapped skills and strengths. So my question is: “How would parenting go if we made better use of our strengths?”
- Could you laugh more and yell less during the morning rush or homework time?
- Could you and your spouse get on the same page?
- Could you open the communication channel your future teenagers will need?
- Could you find time to chill out with your kids?
What would your family look like if you were able to slow down, be more present, and choose how to respond to your children?
Positive parent coaching is a supportive approach to building parenting skills based on your values and strengths. We each possess positive attributes (gratitude, optimism, courage, kindness, compassion) that can enhance our parenting skills. Rather than focusing on solving problems, which leads to more focusing on more problems, coaching begins by identifying your individual profile of positive strengths and virtues. Positive parent coaching can help you raise healthy, grounded, compassionate children based on your values as parents.
Lauren Napolitano, Psy.D.