Publicly Stand Up For What You Believe In!

I keep getting asked this question:

"Do you think using the media is good way to spread an important message?"

Absolutely! There are just some things worth mentioning before jumping into something as crazy as a potential media firestorm:

 

Make sure the decision is unanimous.

Your entire family needs to be on-board. You are a unit, make important decisions as one.

Do not take money

If your passion happens to be your job, that is one thing. However, if you chose to make a big statement through the media about a cause you believe in, it should be done for free. That includes follow-up interviews.

Be ready for attack.

If your message is portrayed beautifully people still may hate it. It would be naive to think otherwise. (Remember: you aren’t doing this to make friends.)

You have no control.

You will be taking a (hopefully educated) risk. If the publicity is coming from well-known popular sources you will not be given creative control. You will reach more people, but even the most discerning person cannot predict what the final editors will produce.  With that being said, even if it is not portrayed well, you know why you participated. Good inevitably will come. The TIME cover did not portray the direction of photo shoot. However, many other magazines came out with their own versions of the cover. Those covers would have never been created and released if it wasn't for the less-than-desirable cover that hit such a nerve with the public.

You will have supporters.

No matter how the media swings it, there will be discerning people that understand the message and cause.  They will rally to help spread the message.

You will have "friends" coming out of the woodwork.

If it gets big enough, this will inevitably happen. For me, I knew exactly who my friends were going into the media battlefield. They (not surprisingly) ended up being exactly who I thought they were (loyal, loving, supporting, encouraging... etc.)

However, some people will try to connect themselves with you through association. There were people I've never had any communication with before claiming to have a personal connection with me to help publicize their own agenda (business, blog, website). A lot of untruths were written, but the people were giving more clout because they claimed to be a friend or colleague.

Bottom line: people will try to make money off of you from every angle imaginable.

Our society has the attention span of a goldfish.

No matter how crazy it gets, just know people will forget about you, but they won't forget about the issues you've brought up.

You are tougher than you think.

I keep hearing, "you are so brave" or "you are really tough." Well, most people are. This is not unique to a small percentage of the population. Our culture uses fear as the the opiate for the masses, and to keep us all in our little undisturbed boxes. The first day or two I was scared for fear of the unknown. When it got to the height of the coverage and negativity (and if you didn't notice, it was exceptionally covered in negative way) I remember thinking, "This is it?" Negative media attention is not scary, it is silly.

Do not be afraid of people saying negative things about you. Society wants us to believe it is the worst thing that can happen, but 1. It is easily manageable 2. Our world needs change, and it won't happen if we don't rock the boat.

Don’t take it personally.

It is impossible for someone to personally attack you if they don’t know you. They may think they know you, but really they are responding with their own filters to an image/thought they have confused for a human being.

Below are some examples of why getting judged from strangers is no big deal, and why should not stop you from continuing on with your message:

I haven’t googled or looked anything up about myself since the cover came out. However, my friends definitely keep me informed about the most amusing and bogus of claims.

Or as I’d like to call it...

Stupid S*** Strangers Have Said About Me:

(I won’t even go into the weird stuff they said about Brian or the boys....)

  • I’m Native American- Great!...Well, except I’m not. I do love the movie Dances With Wolves, does that count for something?  My sister has American Indian Princess Syndrome (being Scandinavian, Sudanese, Armenian, and Romanian isn’t interesting enough, I guess). She was pretty excited to  hear she was Native American by rumor and relation.
  • I’m a model- 5’3.75” (those three-quarters are important to me)  and unphotogenic, I should be delighted by the confusion, but it this misinformation was used for bizarre malicious rants.
    "Yes, I understand why it is so easy to mistake this hot little number for a professional model. Not their fault."
  • I’m really in my early 30s- My friends knew I would be pretty excited about this bizarre rumor because it is a well-known fact I think women are the most physically attractive in their mid-thirties. I was a little giddy with this one. Unfortunately, no one in person confuses me for that prime age :-/
  • My blog was named “I am Not the Babysitter” because it is proud statement against babysitters and any sort of childcare.One of my babysitters told me about this one!  o_0 ....Sure...it has nothing to do with the fact that I am the size and shape of a prepubescent 12 year old girl and my children physically do not match me. Oh, and that it clearly states on my blog that I am chronically confused for the babysitter. No, that makes too much sense.
    "This must be what people see when they meet us for the first time. People assume this band of weirdos couldn't possibly be a family...but we are! :-)"

Katherine Dettwyler stated this great scientific fact to me after the release of the cover, “People are idiots..." And then added  "don’t listen to them.”  I am sharing those insightful and articulate words with you. :-)

Don’t stop fighting for something you believe in because of others. Some people are just morons and have anything better to do than make up stories about people they don’t know. (Doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy laughing at some of the exceptionally weird comments, though!)

 

Transracial family by way of birth and adoption. Oh, and everyone thinks I'm my kid's babysitter! Join my chaos!

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