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Putting it All Together: How Do You Give Back?

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Over the weekend, my husband and I started our spring cleaning. This is the cleanup that's not just about getting things spiffy (although I did spend an hour on Saturday scrubbing down the patio furniture) but about getting rid of things. We went from room to room in our house and asked ourselves: what can go? A lot of things, it turns out.

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For us, cleaning house is more than just getting rid of stuff; it's a way to share what we have, quite literally. We're always looking for easy, everyday ways to give back, for moments of giving that are part of the routine of our life, and giving away what we aren't using or don't need is the simplest way. We constantly cull our closets and our bookshelves and toy bins for things we've outgrown or stopped using; at least once a month, my kids show up at my neighbor's with a bag of hand-me-downs for her son or books for the baby. Wade and I keep a big bag in our closet for household things we're no longer using; when Big Brothers or the Vietnam Vets or Habitat for Humanity calls, we put the bag outside for them.

That's not the only way we give, though. When my sons come home and announce that their class is out of Kleenex or glue sticks or snacks, I pick some up at the grocery -- I'm there anyway, right, so what's one more jumbo pack of tissues in my cart? Easy. For my family, giving back most often manifests in material forms: we talk often with the kids about how since we have so much, it's our responsibility to share what we have with those who have less. (It also helps that Wade and I are both minimalists when it comes to possessions; we would rather have a few nice things than a lot of anything, and nothing makes us happier than getting rid of extra stuff.) But there are other ways to give -- writing a check or donating time or ... well, you tell me.

For the next installment of BlogHer's Putting it All Together video series, I'll be looking for your ideas on giving back. At the end of the month, I'll head over to Ree's ranch to shoot this particular video; Michelle Woo will be joining me as my co-host. I'm excited to meet Michelle and see PW's home, but I'm also excited to hear about how you all are giving back, what you're doing to make your community a better place. In the next few weeks, I'll be telling you about some of my favorite ways to give back and about some people who inspire me; I'll also be sharing your stories of giving. So let's hear them.

Your turn: How do you give back?

Susan Wagner writes about pragmatic fashion at The Working Closet and chic suburban living at Friday Playdate, where this post originally appeared.

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whitneymoss 5 pts

In September I rallied all my peeps to bring diapers to a box in front of my house. I collected above 1000 diapers. Then, Safeway matched my work and together we donated 2500 diapers to my local women's Drop-In center.

I was inspired when I read that food stamps cannot be used for diapers and that they are not stocked at food banks. This means that women who are without the means to pay for diapers are (shit) out of luck, so to speak.

I feel like this act made a direct difference.

Next month I am co-hosting a fundraiser for Help A Mother Out, an organization dedicated to putting diapers on the butts of babies who are unable to afford them.

I would love to share more about this on the BlogHer video, Susan!

Whitney is the co-founder of

http://www.rookiemoms.com

fweetieb 5 pts

I try to do the little things - keeping a box around and constantly putting things into it we don't need, grew out of, etc... When it's full, I donate it.
Every few months I gather up our Nat'l Geos, Backpacker and Smithsonian magazines and give them to a women who works at my daughter's daycare. Her pre-teen son read them, takes them to school and shares them with family.
We've used birthdays to show our girls how lucky we are by giving away the old as new items come in. My daughter started going through her toys "for kids who need them, Mommy," when she was three. It's become habit for us.
My mom is a breast cancer survivor, so I've made it a point to do one thing a year for that cause - I've walked, crewed and coordinated volunteers for the 3-Day.
Not to mention all the school things my husband and I both help with! We want our girls to realize they are part of a larger community, and as such, to involve themselves in that world, as well as the one closest to them.

Fweetieb Blog: http://justfweetieb.blogspot.com

SouthBayRantsnRaves 5 pts

Last year I quit my job with my husband's blessing. At first I was bored out of my mind but then I found a wonderful volunteer organization this past January and have fallen in love with it. It's called the Crown Jewel Club ( http://crownjewelclub.wordpress.com/ ) and we help at risk girls in the inner city with manners & self esteem. Let me tell you, I've already done one session for this group and seeing how these young girls who are insecure blossom into bubbly, bright, beautiful girls over the span of 7 weeks is just heartwarming. I know the girls get so much out of this & truth be told, I think I get more out than they do. It feels great to connect & enrich lives. The experience warms my heart & makes me extra grateful for what I have. Since I've joined, I just have a better outlook on life & always smile when I speak about this group. Heck, I'm smiling as I write this!

-Bianca
South Bay Rants n Raves ( http://southbayrantsnraves.wordpress.com/ )

The Boopster 5 pts

My giving is sparked instantly most of the time. As I was washing my car at the local car wash last week I witnessed a man reaching in the trash can and pulled out a half cup of dunkin donuts coffee, ( I assume it was half full, and coffee), but that's no matter. He drank it. That moved me. I asked myself..could I do that "right now" if I were thirsty and needed something to drink? Could I? My instincts for survival tell me that I would and could but my heart said, here you are with a chance to give this man something he did not expect to receive today...money. No matter what the amount just walk over kindly and treat him as if he were your friend in need. So I did. I handed him a $5 dollar bill and said here you are sir, have a great day. He was floored and speechless. Thank you so much, thank you so much!! and I said don't thank me, because I thank you for reminding me that I truly am a good person and so are you. Be blessed everyday of your life. And I drove away feeling love and loved for that moment.

ActuallyGiving 5 pts

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ActuallyGiving 5 pts

Love that I saw this post! Giving is probably my primary mission in life: I'm a fundraiser and my blog is about my decisions (and struggles) with my own personal giving. I just finished a "generosity experiment" where I gave $10 a day for 40 days, and am now working out how much to be giving weekly.

I have one small challenge to your post: 99% of the time I give cash. There are so many stories of people making well-meaning gifts-in-kind that end up making things worse (and I've done this myself! http://www.actuallygiving.com/2010/02/what-to-give... that except for very specific cases, I always give money. If I trust a charity enough to support them, I trust that they best know how to spend the money to meet their top priorities.

Great idea for the next video blog, I look forward to hearing more of what the community is giving.

Brigid Slipka
www.actuallygiving.com ( http://www.actuallygiving.com )

WhitGrlwaFatAss 5 pts

I started my blogging with the idea of finding ways to fight the hunger in the world besides 'clearing my plate' and used my site to raise money for Feeding America while personally striving to get healthy and lose weight. What started as a blog, lead to multiple live fund raising events, and a holiday canned food drive. Working to raise money and awareness to fight hunger has helped me combat the shame I feel surrounding my food and body issues. I still struggle everyday but this newfound idea of balance has changed my life.

This year I started a campaign on my blog to find 10 people like myself who are striving to achieve a goal and will work to fund-raise $1000 each for their designated charity as a way to communicate that goal. The idea is 10 people, 10 goals, for $10,000 raised in 2010. So far, 2 people have met their goals and at first I was worried about 'failing' and not finding the full 10 people but I try to keep in mind that every little bit helps and not to get discouraged.

Reading the comments here have inspired me to see what other small things I can do in my day-to-day life to give back.

Saving the World One Fat Ass at a Time!

www.jellykean.wordpress.com ( http://www.jellykean.wordpress.com/ )

Beverly Flaxington 5 pts

I love this post. To me, finding ways to give back is the fun in life (of course alongside enjoying my kids!). I collect all year long for the local Shelter's yard sale, give all of our gently used toys, household goods and clothes away -- my kids have learned the manta "I don't use it, mom. Maybe some poor kids would like it?" But, my favorite time of the week is when I clean cages at the local animal shelter. There I am, a professional woman rolling up her sleeves and getting peed on!! How can that be fun but it makes my week.

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Beverly Flaxington

Blog: Dealing with Difficult People ( http://dealingdifficultpeople.blogspot.com/ )

Book: Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets ( http://www.understandingotherpeople.com/ )

jenndish 5 pts

I have always loved the moments I spent doing work for charities and have gone out of my way to make room for them in my life. Recently, the pressures of work and family have kept me from spending time doing what I love--volunteering. True, I still collected items, created gift baskets for raffles, and donated cash, but for me, the act of volunteering was always the most rewarding.

So, I took a leap of faith. An opportunity to work for a nonprofit I really love (homeless shelter for women) presented itself and I decided to take the plunge. It meant a pay cut, but it also meant being able to truly love going to work every day. As an added bonus, it gave me some other life treats that had been missing (like being able to spend more time with my kids). The funny thing is, I enjoy what I do so much that I almost feel guilty getting paid to do it. :-)

Blog: Life in the Petri Dish ( http://www.lifeinthedish.blogspot.com )
Twitter: jenn_dish ( http://twitter.com/jenn_dish )

IsleDance 5 pts

You do what I do. And it always feels so great. Half a bag of groceries and some fun household stuff are ready for the door.

One Friday night, I loaded up my life and headed out... ( http://isledance.blogspot.com )

lynnfrbs1 5 pts

that's unbelievable! many people talk about doing something like this but for one reason or another most of us don't make it a reality. good for you!

jodi1091 5 pts

Great post!! Even when you think it is only something small it can mean the world to someone else!! Being like you, a busy mom, I try to help out where I can, markers, glue,cupcakes for the bakesale at school, etc. I often go on those get this stuff out of my house binges to, usually about four times a year, and I must say CP, and Salvation army usually make out pretty good on those days!! Something new I am starting now is Photo sessions for charities/non profit org. I have started a new business this year and have been very fortunate. I have been approached by a local non profit org, Rural Response for Healthy Children, and anually I will be donating my time(photographer) and edited photo's on disk, all proceeds will go directly to this wonderful organization!! I will also be doing pet portraits for the ospca all proceeds going right back to them!! If everyone took a skill or passion they had and took it one step further in a direction to help someone out, whether it be artistic, or building (habitat for humanity)or even just baking those cupcakes for the school fundraiser, this world would be one step further in the right direction!!!
jodi
http://dreamingtreephotographyjodidurnin.wordpress...

JennaHatfield 10 pts

When I experienced my unplanned pregnancy, I had no support. I was scared, alone and thanks to my kidney disorder, very sick. I was unable to work and unable to save money. We all know how that turned out.

As such, I volunteer at our local and still new-ish pregnancy center. Last year I organized a huge drive and donated a bunch of baby and maternity stuff. (20 cases of diapers!) I also am on call if any expectant mother wants to discuss the ins and outs of adoption (whether she's just curious or needs some helping making the pro/con list). I've helped quite a few moms get on their feet, get organized and realize that they are fully capable of parenting. I've also counseled a mother who chose to place.

@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom ) from Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and
The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com )

cronicly cranky 5 pts

Things have been pretty different at our house since January. I was off from work after having surgery, and planned a ZILLION things to with my time off. Instead I ended up going to Haiti and helping on a medical relief team as a Nurse.

While I was there we found out about the need for host families to house a child while they come to the US for surgery. We are now preparing for a 10 yr old boy to come & stay with us for the next 6 months.

We have so much & after seeing what the day to day life is like in Haiti, I knew this was a way for me to help make a difference in ONE person's life.

Given the scope of destruction it may seem like a drop in the bucket. Maybe it is...to everyone except one 10 year old boy!