Quarter Lif Chronicles

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Wikipedia defines quarter life crisis  as "the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the early twenties to the early thirties. The term is named by analogy with mid-life crisis." ( I tried to get a Merriam-Webster definition, but they didn't have one. Go figure.)  During this time period you question your accomplishments, doubt your career and life choices, and freak out about pretty much every life decision you have ever made.  Ok... so maybe not everyone does this, but I can admit that I did.

As I approached the daunting age of 25, I felt I like had not achieved enough.  I looked around me and felt like I was behind the curve.  People were decorating their new condos, planning their extravagant weddings, and making an exorbitant amount of money.  (Thanks Facebook... for all the updates.)They did all this ...while I was a poor and lowly graduate student.  I still lived in an apartment, had just gone through a horrible break-up, and my meager graduate stipend paid the bills... and that's it.  In the midst of my self-pity, I didn't give myself enough credit for what I HAD done.  I was in graduate school (hello...only about 4% of the population achieves this!);although I had a bad break up, I learned a lot about myself which prepared me for my next relationship (we're married now!!!); and now that I'm out of graduate school, I am reaping the benefits of my education (even though I'm still not making THAT much...uggh).  Looking back , I realized I was measuring my success by other's yardsticks.

 So now I'm setting my own standards of success. Not society's, not my friends', not my family's...MINE.   I want to ensure that I live my life to the fullest...I want to dream big, achieve big, and ultimately live my life with no regrets. (By the way, when you base your life on other's standards...you'll never be happy.) I want to live my life in a way that when I hit my 30s, 40s, and 50s, I won't be singing the woulda, coulda, shoulda blues.  And if I die tomorrow, I want to feel like I have accomplished all that I hoped to.  So I'm writng this blog because sometimes... you need a catharsis... and other times you need to speak things into action.  So I'm chronicling my goals, my fears, my rants and raves, and everything else in between. And if you're in you're 20s or 30s, you just might find yourself nodding in agreement, shaking your head, and relating to the "Quarter Life Chronicles" (Notice...I didn't say crisis.)