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Why "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" Isn't Bad For Black Women

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Last season when I found myself watching Bravo's "The Real Housewives of Atlanta," I was astounded, appalled and I must say shamefully---entertained.  That's right, I kept watching, fascinated, as the image of rich, black women as gold diggers was paraded across my television screen, week after week, and I added it to my list of TV shows that gave black women a bad name.

I've since changed my mind.

What got me to thinking about all this was last week's premiere of the second season of "The Real Housewives of Atlanta."

I've never seen "The Real Housewives of Orange County" but I have seen "The Real Housewives of New Jersey," and "The Real Housewives of New York," and I gotta tell ya', "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" ain't so bad in comparison.

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All that screaming, screeching, backstabbing, betrayal, cliquey, high school-like behavior is just as bad, if not worse, on those shows as it is on RHOA.

Here's the Atlanta cast of characters:

NeNe Leakes:  The most flamboyant of the wives used
to be best friends with Kim but that blew up last season and now
they're not speaking.

Sheree Whitfield:  She's coming out of a nasty divorce, had her mansion foreclosed on and sold at auction, and is now raising her three kids on her own in a more modest home.

Lisa Wu Hartwell:  She's married to a professional football player and is thinking about having another child, but fertility treatments may be required.

Kandi Burruss:  She's new to the show and is a Grammy award winning singer/songwriter.  She has a daughter and is engaged to a guy with six kids.

Kim Zolciak:  She's the token white woman.  She wants to be a country singer and just broke up with her sugar daddy, "Big Poppa."

The producers got rid of DeShawn from last year because she was considered too boring.  Or could it have been too normal

The big blowout, literally on last week's premiere, was the shouting match between Sheree and a party planner she hired to celebrate her new status as a single woman.  The party planner, Anthony got too snippy when Sheree had legitimate questions about the progress of the party.  That resulted in a screaming match at the guy's office, complete with threats.  Other office workers had to come in and break it up and at the end of the show, Sheree hilariously asks, "What ever happened to customer service?"

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this show is good for the image of black women, I'm just saying I don't think it's bad.  Think the Hippocratic oath in medicine--do no harm.  I don't think RHOA does harm.

Remember how a few weeks ago, I speculated "What If 'HawthoRNe' Were White and 'Nurse Jackie' Were Black?"  How there would be an uproar if the only starring role for a black actress on television were that of a pill popping, adulterous nurse at a big city hospital?  And how the real issue was a lack of a variety of black women characters starring in their own shows?

All I want is for black women to be showcased in all their ranges of lives and experiences.  I don't want to only see hookers and hos, I don't only want to see goody two-shoe, noble black women, I don't only want to see long suffering single mothers. 

What I want to see are single black women who are corporate executives, I want to see single black women homeowners struggling to maintain relationships, friendships and family ties in a very busy world, I want to see black teenage girls growing up who aspire to more than just being a pop star, I want to see black families living in middle class neighborhoods, with the same struggles all parents have with their kids, but who are ultimately loving and kind.

I also don't want these characters to be perfect just because they're black--I want them to be as "real" as any well written white character.

Now the "Real Housewives" shows are reality shows after all and we should all know by now that they aren't "reality."  They're cast with characters that will be flashy, flamboyant and ripe for controversy.  Everyone who goes on a reality show these days understands the more outrageous you are, the more face time you get.  And believe me, these women on the "Real Housewives" shows, black and white, are desperate for face time.  They eat, sleep, live and breathe it.  

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Diana 5 pts

You know, because sexism is wrong but ageism isn't. 

Yes, that was sarcasm.

Diana

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

Recalling the miniseries, Little Gloria: Happy at Last, if there's much truth to it, then I'm inclined to agree with you and add that Cornelius wouldn't be the only Vanderbilt ghost watching. 

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Megan Smith 5 pts

I gotta tell ya', Cornelius Vanderbilt ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cornelius_Vanderbilt ), the one who built the Vanderbilt fortune via enterprises like New York's Staten Island Ferry and an eventual monopoly of steamship and railroad lines, was considered quite the rough and tumble customer ( http://www.biographybase.com/biography/Vanderbilt_... ):

He was a vulgar, mean-spirited individual who made life miserable for everyone around him, including his family. 

I personally think he would have loved RHOA, so Anderson's fascination may be in the blood.

Megan
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Megan Smith 5 pts

A very good point.

Megan
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Nordette Adams 6 pts

I've never watched the show, Megan, just seen clips, but I recall that Anderson Cooper admitted he watches the show because he's fascinated with Nene ( http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/marc_malkin/b67359... ). I, uh, don't think he's interested for the same reasons you are. Anyway, wish I could conjure some Vanderbilts' ghosts to see what they think of his admission that he's obsessed with that show. :-) 

I don't like the idea that all black characters should be perfect either. I prefer human.  

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aftercancer 5 pts

I hear what you're saying but I tend to give the 20 year olds a bit more of a pass because they're young and stupid as we all were once.

Kate

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

I think he was 15 when it was on the air, probably trying to figure out what do women really want or maybe coming to terms with people not being what they claim to be. 

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Megan Smith 5 pts

Hi Maria,

I harbor some of those fears you mention as well and I know there are many out there who will have their stereotypes reinforced by a show like RHOA.  However, if it comes down to a choice between RHOA and some of the other images of black women floating around out there, I'll take RHOA.

Megan
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Maria Niles 5 pts

Most unintentionally hilarious show ever!

And, I hear you on RHOA, Megan - why shouldn't vapid black women get airtime alongside vapid white women? I guess I just still harbor old school fears that unlike white people, bad actions on the part of black individuals are seen as an indictment of the entire group. I was reading an article about some upcoming ads to encourage black families to adopt or foster black children who are disproportionately represented in the foster care system. Granted, I don't put much stock in how representative anonymous online comments are, but I was taken aback by several that stated black children should be adopted by white families and raised outside of black communities and culture so that they wouldn't be "corrupted" and end up criminals, on drugs or welfare. Sigh. We've come so far but I'm constantly reminded of how far we have to go.

Now that all said, I watched and enjoyed some of S1 as a guilty pleasure and am sad but not surprised to hear DeShawn's relative sanity (though the hiring of the household staff was priceless) will be missed in S2.

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Megan Smith 5 pts

I generally agree with you but is it really any worse for women than say, "The Bachelor?"  Somehow I don't think so.

Having "real housewives" running around spending money like water, in between the occasional charity event, somehow doesn't bother me nearly as much as the spectacle of an assortment of nubile 20 year olds vying for some loser picked for them by a reality show producer.

Megan
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Megan Smith 5 pts

Actually, "Who gone' check me, boo" was my original title of this post but I decided as cool a phrase as it is, not many readers would know where it came from.  But I can guarantee you somewhere in this country, someone's already produced the t-shirt.

And see, Fox's "Joe Millionaire" ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Millionaire ) from a couple of seasons back was the true sign of the apocalypse. 

Megan
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aftercancer 5 pts

Atlanta may not be bad for black women but the entire series is just plain bad for women in general. 

Kate

I blog at http://www.aftercancernowwhat.com 

KBestOliver 5 pts

As a whole, I think the Real Housewives franchise is just another sign that the apocalypse is upon us.

However, I do think is important for women of color from ALL walks of life to be portrayed on television.  I'm originally from Iowa, and I guarantee you there are many people with whom I grew up, who have no concept of the affluent Black woman.

Also, I can fully support the catch phrase "Who gone' check me, boo?"  I want a t-shirt that says that.