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Rejection Is Normal. Really.

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We've all heard stories of the dreaded rejection letter, or rather, letters. I once read that by the time a writer publishes a book they should expect to have enough rejection offers to wallpaper a bathroom. Stephen King displayed his many rejection letters on a spike on his wall. Rejection is part of the publishing process. That doesn't mean it's warm and fluffy. Rejection sucks. Luckily there are many authors out there who can serve as role models on the rejection front.

One of my favourite blog features is Dear Author First Sales series. Sure, there are the lucky ones that never did deal with that pile of rejection letters but many, many authors have. Deirdre Knight is one of the founder of The Knight Agency, which represents authors, and even that didn't make her immune from rejection.

“That book will never sell,” she told me after I described BUTTERFLY. “Readers just aren’t ready for that kind of thing.” I left the building, climbed in a cab, and as we wove our way through Central Park, collapsed against the seat. I was writing the unpublishable book. I was supposed to know better. I was supposed to spend sixteen months writing something marketable.

Sarah Bennet Wealer interviews her friend and fellow author Mandy Hubbard about the her debut book and the publishing process. She started the process in 2006 when she got her first agent.

Finally, in early 2008, I received another revision request that meant a complete and total rewrite. I remembered telling my agent I would do it while simultaneously shaking my head becuase I knew it was totally crazy to start over after more than 20 rejections. But I did.

And that editor rejected it. But since it was practically good-as-new, my agent decided to try one last round of submissions, and it went out again. We received two offers on the new version, and I signed a two book deal with Razorbill books. My "overnight sale" took nearly two years, two agents, and over forty rejections on my two projects.

There is no such thing a true "overnight success". Somewhere someone started off with an idea and spent months crafting that idea into a book. Then they edited and queried and rewrote and edited and queried and rewrote. Sometimes they shoved that first attempt into a drawer, where it now The Book That Must Not Be Spoken Of.

Did you know that many successful books have long histories of rejection? The Examiner recently looked at thirty authors who were rejected repeatedly (and sometimes rudely). Would you believe that someone once thought that Anne Frank wouldn't be worth reading? Or that someone rejected Animal Farm? Or that someone said Sylvia Plath didn't have enough genuine talent for anyone to take notice? A Wrinkle in Time was rejected at least 26 times before being published and winning the Newbery.

Judy Blume and J.K. Rowling had loads of rejections between them and it's something that author Jill Cantor is taking some comfort in.

Remember that part about this being my fourth attempt? That means three other attempts were thwarted based on some level of rejection, which also means, I've dealt with a lot of rejection over the past few years. And I've come to the conclusion that the best way to deal with rejection is this: No matter what, keep going. Keep writing. Keep trying. Get rejected. Then try some more.

And since something isn't really something until there's a blog about it, I give you Literary Rejections on Display.

So if you find yourself with a pile of rejection letters, remember that you are in very, very good company.

Contributing Editor Sassymonkey also blogs at Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

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ana2271 5 pts

Now I'm confused, because I just type the response in the response box that I see. I didn't specifically press the 'reply' first and then reply.

Denise 9 pts moderator

You and I are having some email problems. ;-)

I sent you an email this morning around 11am CT, I'm guessing you didn't get that since you're here now asking about your comments.

I don't yet have email from you but I'll keep looking for it.

Your comments were not removed because you broke any rules - they were removed because they were attached to comments that DID violate our guidelines.

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ana2271 5 pts

I've just sent an email. But it doesn't matter. I'm not motivated to comment on any other topic. I didn't say anything offensive, or argue with anyone. I just responded with my own experience with rejection. But I can appreciate the irony: having comments 'rejected'.

Denise 9 pts moderator

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ana2271 5 pts

How come my comments were deleted? I don't think I said anything that was offensive.

mashadutoit 5 pts

I've decided to have an exhibition again - and its a bit painful to find a gallery that will show my work.  I've had exhibitions in the past - I'm wondering if its maybe easier when you are a young artist to get people to take a chance on you?

So far I've had one gallery tell me my work is not comercial enough (quite true) and another that its too traditional (code for - "you dont use video")

Its awkward because its a face to face discussion with the rejector.

Maria Niles 5 pts

Not for authors but in the music biz, let me assure you that rejection is no measure of your worth as a writer or the brilliance of your material. There is absolutely nothing personal about them. Publishers and producers are in a business. Those who write the letters have to make a calculation about how well they and their company can sell the reviewed work.

The rejections could just mean that you don't produce a certain kind of commercially popular material. And that might not be a bad thing. If, however, commercial success is what you seek you can take the feedback and use it to adjust your writing to better fit the marketplace. But will that make you happy and satisfied?

In television, for example, I loved the television show The Wire but very few people watched it and paid to have HBO in order to see it. It is something of a miracle that despite its teeny, tiny ratings it managed to survive for five seasons. It was art and was often compared to being like a novel put on screen. Yet dramas are becoming rarer on television and shows like New York Goes To Work and Hitched or Ditched get picked up. Crap sells. Brilliance often does not.

Please continue to write because you (the universal you not commenters here) have stories to tell and don't stop because being published by a major publishing house, and getting an advance big enough to allow you to do nothing but write, and not having to come up with a plan to market your writing and not having to do at least some of the marketing yourself is so out of the realm of possibility for the vast majority of writers that, while there's nothing wrong with dreaming that dream and striving for it, you'll only torture yourself if that is the only goal that motivates you to continue writing.

And, sassymonkey, Dear Author First Sales sounds fascinating and I'm off to check it out. Thanks!

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kandela 5 pts

I write about 3 short stories a year, that's all I can manage. Each one is as good as I can make it. So far I've had one story published, and even it was rejected once (by a bookshop newsletter!) and had to be rewritten.

I know I have something brilliant with the latest one, everyone I show it to likes it but it is written in an unusual way and it's been rejected 7 times already. It would be soul destroying to give up on a 4000 word story that I have laboured over for 2 years now. Maybe if I had an agent this would be easier but I don't, I don't even have a proof reader with experience in anything other than fanfic.

sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

There are indeed several authors there who did not face the mean rejection dragon.

And yes! Be inspired! And when that doesn't work imagine how much it sucks to be the person who rejected Harry Potter. ;-)

Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca/ ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca/ ).

SatelliteSister5 5 pts

Being half-way through a first novel, I'm not sure whether I should be inspired or dejected with the "40 rejections" story. I'm going with inspired!

Thanks, sassymonkey. 

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