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Reverse Migration: From the Coast to the Heartland

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Lately, it seems companies and people are starting to recognize that business in the United States does not consist of only New York City and California. There are, in fact, many wonderful places to live in between. People are choosing to live in cities that are a little quieter, a little cheaper, and a little more family friendly, as buzzwords like “work/life balance” echo in the halls of corporate America. More companies are choosing to set up shop in places like Colorado, Kansas City or Oklahoma. It’s not because of the weather.

In 2000, my husband and I moved to Overland Park, Kansas, a suburb of Kansas City. I had grown up here, and though my husband and I had ridden the wave of his career all over the country after college, when it came time to settle down with our kids, we wanted to be close to family. But in 2004 he was offered a job opportunity that moved our little family to San Diego. My kids were two and four at the time. Believing that this job would be a huge boost to his career, and that if we were going to go off on a lark and make a move like that we should do it before the kids were in school, we went for it. We rented a house instead of trying to buy in what turned out to be the top of the housing market boom, before the fall.

And we loved it. I especially loved San Diego. We moved right before Christmas, and quickly discovered winter does indeed come to San Diego, just not like we were used to in the Midwest. It rained the first few weeks we were there, and I found myself alone in a new city with two small, very active children and no way to engage other adults while my husband was on a business trip to China. We spent a lot of time at the McDonald’s Playplace.

But once we came out the other side of spring and beach season opened up, I was hooked. I didn’t even mind the traffic on the I-5. We went down to the beach to play in the sand the way most people go to the park. We spent our Saturdays frolicking among among the tourists at Legoland and the world renowned San Diego Zoo with just a wave of a membership card. We met some wonderful friends, with whom we are still close today.

But when the job didn’t turn out the way we thought it would and the housing market imploded, we decided to cut bait and go home. We’ve never regretted it. Our little rental house in San Diego served our purpose nicely, but it was on a busy street where I didn’t want the kids to play in the front. Here in suburban Kansas City, my kids roam the quiet side streets on bikes and scooters with their friends until dark or dinner, whichever comes first. Yes, we could have found neighborhoods like that in San Diego, but we couldn’t afford to live in them.

2009-08-06T17-09-14 -- IMG_7837Many people are discovering how easy it is to afford to live in the Midwest. Companies have started to notice, too, because it’s easier to lure talented employees to work for you when you can offer them a cost of living that demonstrates the American Dream.

Many who relocate to Kansas City come for jobs in the Life Science areas, be it human or animal health. Given that many people think of Kansas City as “Cowtown,” it’s not surprising to discover animal health companies like Hill’s Science Diet pet food and Bayer CropScience nearby.  Kansas is even number ten on the Forbes Best States For Business, up from number 15 last year.

Did you see who else is on that list? Not California or New York.

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  • Colorado -- Boulder and surrounding suburbs exploded with the IPO/dotcom boom and felt the bust just as hard. Now the focus is on companies who champion green, sustainable,
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Galit Breen 5 pts

I left beautiful, warm Northern Cali for Brr, cold Minnesota. And why yes, yes it is hard to get used to Winter (ie: about 1/2 the year). But this is our home. we're able to live the life that we want here and while I miss A LOT about California, I'm finally embracing the Midwesterners that we are. Excellent post, thanks!

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Rita Arens 7 pts

I know several people for whom living in a large coastal city IS THE PRIORITY. And there's no judgment from me for that -- they understand that's important to them and are willing to make the sacrifices that come with it.

The hard part for me was the nagging feeling that I was somehow less than fabulous for living in the middle of the country instead of on a coast. I've had many past business colleagues behave in an openly snarky manner toward me because I live in Kansas City, as though there were a dearth of intelligence between the Atlantic and the Pacific.

I'm glad I finally sat down and realized that I'm a girl whose father built a house to face east and west for optimal sunrise/sunset views. I struggled in Chicago for one reason because I couldn't see the horizon and for another reason because I couldn't deal with waiting in line for 30 minutes at the drugstore to buy one tube of toothpaste. I grew up on a farm and am not a woman who likes to argue over resources. I like some space and an unobstructed view of the horizon. It works for me.

I wish we could all recognize that we do what we do and we live where we live for a reason, and with very few exceptions, those reasons are all completely valid. Some people value prestige, some geography, some family proximity, some cost of living, some proximity to career hubs. I realized when I settled down in Kansas City that I really didn't want to be far away from my family in Iowa, and that in itself could be fabulous enough for me.

Not that I don't still secretly want to be fabulous. I just haven't figured out how to do it it yet.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak. She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Heather Clisby 5 pts

Great post! I moved from San Francisco to Colorado 4.5 years ago and haven't regretted a moment. For one thing, I get twice the living space for half the price and the lack of teeth-grinding, rat-race frenetic energy has left me calmer and happier, though it took some time.

I spent the first six months leaving an hour earlier for anything because my now-pointless parking anxieties remained. Then there was the day I was the only one who showed up for a meeting. Turns out there is a basic Colorado understanding that I hadn't yet learned: Perfect Snow Day = No work.

Also, the open friendliness of Colorado residents really threw me at first. Don't kid yourself, those rugged folks in fleece and North Face gear are still Midwesterners. The amount of incredibly fit senior citizens can really shame you into moving your ass.

I could go on and on about the lower prices too - housing, gas, yoga, medical, etc. When I recently visited San Francisco, I couldn't help but notice how extra hard everyone has to work just to live there. I don't get it - there's more than just one beautiful place. (Oh, I do miss those Farmer's Markets though!)

As you point out, I make my living online, which allows me to live anywhere. (GOD BLESS THE INTERNET.) But after 40 years of living on the edge, I gotta say, things are a lot more peaceful in the middle.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

JennaHatfield 9 pts

I live in Ohio. (Woe.) But despite being homesick for Western Pennsylvania, I always tell people to move here. WAY, way, WAY cheaper to live than most places. Sure, we pay for that with the fact that there's nothing to do, but hey, the cheap cost of living allows us to afford to go elsewhere to do things.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newpspaper photographer.

texasebeth 6 pts

Hubby and I both work from home for our respective employers. Hubby can work from anywhere in the US. My employer is expanding it's work-at-home capabilities to other states in the next year or so.

We have frequently discussed moving to a different state where the cost of living was cheaper, better schools, nicer neighborhoods, and yes even better weather once my company expands it's options. We've even thought about just moving somewhere else in Texas for the same reasons.

All of our families (both sides) are in the Houston area so that is something we have consider too. Although, sometimes that is the incentive to move away! LOL

Elizabeth

@texasebeth ( http://twitter.com/texasebeth )  and My Life, such as it is.... ( http://texasebeth.blogspot.com )