Rushing it

Time passes slowly when you are young and waiting to grow up.  For those in the AARP group, time can’t pass slowly enough.  That’s why I believe parents should relax and enjoy their children’s milestones as they are reached, rather than making them rush to reach those milestones or spend time worrying about them. Sometimes, though, when new parents meet up with other new parents, “shortcomings” in their children’s accomplishments are noted silently as the afflicted parent tries to remedy the “problem” quickly.

There are many books on the market and pediatricians in practice that can advise young parents when a problem perceived is actually a problem to be remedied – and I’m sure many parents are well aware of normal milestone parameters.  Even so, when parents and their little ones get together, competition, rather than genuine concern, can be a factor in straining to accomplish what is unnecessary to rush.

Sometimes it is counter-productive to push things along.  For example, it is well-documented that babies will walk when they are good and ready, and any efforts to force the issue may actually delay that accomplishment.

But sometimes a child will want to rush things – especially a 15 month old who wants to imitate those adults he has been studying for several months.  My grandson, Ryan, likes to eat what his parents eat and do it all by himself.  The result of this particular meal (see below) culminated in an extended facial over the kitchen sink – counter-productive for child and parents alike.

Ryan feeding himself "adult" meatballs and spaghetti

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