A SAHM & FEMINIST?
By Cecilia Marzo on April 03, 2012
- noun 1. support of social, political, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.
When I tell people that I am planning on being a stay-at-home mom for a while, most people I know respond with, "Oh, I thought you were a feminist?"
Argh. It gets under my skin when people tell me that. So what I am staying home. Right now we don't need the extra income, and what the hell does that have to do with being a feminist? Or maybe these people just have this persona of feminism as, no bra wearing, no arm-pit shaving women who wanna go into the male-dominated careers and leave the kids at home with dad.
Now don't misunderstand what I am trying to explain. In my household, my husbands job takes good care of us. We can live off of his income nicely, he provide to our needs, and we even can afford to have fun here and there too.
If it was even possible for me to go out and find a job better than his than we would switch places, and trust me, some days I wish I could.But I LOVE being a sahm. I am doing exactly what I like and feel great doing. I know that by me staying home, Liam is getting hugs and kisses from me, read by, and played with all day long.
I do find it hard sometimes to juggle all the house chores, cooking, and mommy-duties that need to be done for the day, all by MY choice. And, when I am lucky, I have moments like this, with my sleepy son rocking in his swing, all chores done, and cooking in process, and I get the chance to sit down with my lover before the hubby gets home. My lover being my MacBook Pro that my husband bought for me about two weeks ago. How lucky can I be?
So yes! Equal rights to everyone! Women keep up the fight for equal pay, challege those with sexist opinions, and make sure to give yourself a voice in our media. But please don't judge me when I choose to stay home with my son, and cook dinner for my hard working husband. Just because boys have a penis doesn't mean we women have to belittle them.
(Nomadically Living at Olive Juice Rebels)