Is the scale a tool or is it a weapon?
by Denise

I'm not a huge fan of scales. I'd like them a lot better if they were only used as tools to assist people in maintaining a healthy lifestyle or to help medical professionals treat patients. Unfortunately the scale is more often used as a weapon to harm ourselves and others (and the harm is done primarily to women.)

Still, I try to keep an open mind. I've had to since I have spent an awful lot of time helping women try to lose weight safely and keep the weight off. Try as I might, I could not convince most women to just stay off of the scale and let their clothing and how they felt be their guide. I had to make peace with the scale - and with how women used their scales.

When I saw the new scale that will tweet your weight, my first thought was that someone would have a field day creating a Twitter account that aggregated all of the weight tweets and turn them into something ugly - something to be laughed at - something to be embarrassed about.

My next thought was, darn that would have been awesome way back when I worked at WebMD's Weight Loss Clinic. The possibilities to support each other via Twitter, the conversations that could have been started through those Tweets... that would have made my weekly weigh station so much cooler.

And then I thought the same thing that a lot of you thought, "Oh hell no." Women don't want to tell the world how much they weigh because women have been taught to be embarrassed about their size. Whether they are ten pounds too light or a hundred pounds too heavy or just the right weight for their height, it's incredibly difficult to find women who can tell you how much they weigh without hesitating, gulping, stuttering, lying, or later regretting their honesty. And that's a shame.

A scale that Tweets your weight could be a really useful tool. It could help you find a support group that would stand by you as you strive to be healthier. It could help you stick to your eating and exercise plan. It could be a positive experience for those who are often short on positive experiences.

Too bad we don't live in a world that sees a Tweeting scale as a useful, positive tool. We do live in a world where the jokes begin before the tool is even available.

Engadget:

As our man Cedric Hutchings (the company's general manager) states, "adding this social functionality makes the WiFi scale by Withings the first true flagship of the Internet of Objects." Right. He might have added that the company's given "fail whale" an entirely new meaning.

And, since we're talking about things that make us uncomfortable, go and read How much do you weigh? I disagree with Ivy League Insecurities. I'd prefer to live in a world where we weren't embarrassed by these kinds of questions.

~~Denise
Flamingo House Happenings

Comments

 

It's not that I have a

It's not that I have a problem with people knowing how much I weigh, it's that I have a problem with people comparing their weights to mine.  I'm 5'7" and most of my friends are in the 5'2" to 5'4" range so the fact that they weigh 20 lb less than me shouldn't be given a second thought.  But it is.  Women constantly find the need to compare their weights to others' and base their self worth on it.  If we could get that out of the way and see each other as individuals and not comparison tools, this scale could be a great toof for mutual encouragement.

Diana Leah Wilson

http://projecteatme.blogspot.com

 

My feelings exactly

That's exactly why I don't like scales in the first place. We need to evolve beyond our own insecurities. 

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

The no-numbers scale

Did you know there is a "no numbers" scale?  When you first weigh yourself, it notes your weight and remembers it.  Then each additional time you weight yourself, it simply tells you if you have gained or lost -and how much- or stayed the same.  I suppose it keeps people focused on the movment and not the numbers, but I'm not sure I like either approach.

I would not mind tweeting my weight if it could be done and received without judgement -only as a fact.  That probably wouldn't happen.

Debra A Stitch In Time Weight for Deb

 

Say What?

I need this scale. At this point in my life, I'm not really trying to lose. I mean, technically, I could use to lose 5 pounds. I'm more concerned with maintaining.

I avoid scales right now.

 

@FireMom from Stop, Drop and Blog and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land

 

I Had No Idea

I had no idea this existed. Thanks for sharing.

www.fatgirlweightlossmap.com

www.fatgirlweightloss.com

Bridging the gap between weight loss & body acceptance

 

Yep I did know that

I've recommended it in the past but women who are really undone by the scale seem to still be undone by the lost/gained messaging. Blah.

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

I'm really short.

So if I gain 2 kilos, I can go up a couple of dress sizes.

This means my clothes tell me before I can GET to the scales.

I'm not ashamed by my numbers on the scale - but as Diana said, it's not a particularly relevant number compared to other people.

In any case, I'm 34 weeks pregnant right now, and I feel like a beach ball.  But the scales tell me I still don't weigh as much as I did at my heaviest...

http://myrope.wordpress.com

 

Yay for beachballs!

And I mean that in a really nice way. Pregnancy weight is awesome, I loved it. I still love it. :-)

And I completely understand what you mean about your clothes being the first indicator, that makes perfect sense to me (I'm kinda short too.)

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

Isn't the scale a tool of the Patriarchy?

:)

 

Politics & News Contributing Editor Queen of Spain

 

Well yes

It is. Thank you for saying it so that I didn't have to. ~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

I would tell you how much I weigh...

If I actually knew. But I don't...not really. Kinda.

I haven't owned a scale since um...ever? We had one when I was growing up but since I left home, I never knew. I didn't know how much I weighted all through university and a few years after. Then I had a doctor who used to weigh me once a year. And then I moved and didn't know for a few years.

Now we have the Wii Fit and I checked it semi-regularly. However, we've upgraded to the Wii Fit Plus which in Canada only weighs you in kg. I've been weighed in lbs my whole life, so the number really is meaningless to me.

I'd be unlikely to use a scale that tweets my weight simply because I'm likely to use a scale. If the Wii Fit could tweet my weight I wouldn't have a problem with it...though I'd prefer it not to tweet my Wii Fit Age. Damn balance tests! hmph!

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

 

Really? Only in Kg?

I had no idea that you couldn't change the weight to lbs in Canada. That's crazyness. How much do you weigh in Kgs? I want to know how much I weigh in Kgs. That's a fun fact!

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

Only in kgs is new

With the original Wii Fit we could chose lbs or kg. We generally chose lbs because kgs when it comes to my our weight confuses us. We can't switch any more and it's kind of annoying.

The last time I weighed myself on it (um a week ago? two weeks ago?) I was 56.something kgs. I've lost a wee bit, I should be closer to 58...I think...maybe? I know I've lost because my BMI has gone down.

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

 

It's Just A Number

I absolutely HATE the scale.  I can wake up with expectation for a wonderful day - until I step onto that scale.  It's amazing how a little gadget, like a scale, can send me into an emotional downward spiral.  I could have my best outfit on, hair came out perfect, make up looks exceptionally good, feeling like I'm ready to conquor the world, and I step on the scale on my way out of the bathroom and BOOM!  I feel like a wet rag lying in the kitchen sink.  I avoid scales at all costs.  Once my clothes start feeling a little tight, I know it's time to cut back.  Adios to the scale!

A Happy Mommy, Kristie

www.kristiegonzales.blogspot.com

 

Way to recognize the problem

For you the tool is definitely a weapon. Good for you for realizing that and avoiding the harm.

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

I Stopped Weighing Myself

I used to be such a slave to the scale, weighing myself everyday and it made me crazy. The worse part of the scale is that it really doesn't tell you very much, you'd be better off taking body measurements. After losing 100lbs I stopped weighing myself and it has helped me to stop obsessing about my weight. Besides, if my pants start to get a little too tight or if I can't race up the stairs the way I normally do I'll know that I've gained weight. 

www.fatgirlweightlossmap.com

www.fatgirlweightloss.com

Bridging the gap between weight loss & body acceptance

 

Congratulations

100lbs is such a great acheivement! And, I completely agree with you on body measurements as well.

:-)

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

No more scales

I've found that if I focus on the scale then I'm not as healthy overall. I become more interested in the number & emotionally am not able to see the bigger picture.  If I just check by what I can wear, if I'm actually getting outside (I need fresh air), & what is going in my mouth then I'm better off.  Everytime I've fallen off the wagon & gone back to the scale I've felt worse about myself & had more struggles with my weight. For me, the scale works against my overall health & well-being.

So no scale that tweets for me.

beth aka confusedhomemaker

http://theconfusedhomemaker.com/

 

Not surprised

Weigh in days can be emotionally difficult, it's hard enough to lose weight that using a tool that just makes you feel bad about yourself... it doesn't make sense.

 

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

 

Love Hate Relationship

Right now it's a love fest because the scale is telling me what I want to hear ---that I am finally on a WOE that makes sense for me and is helping me lose weight.

My new scale is about two years old. I got the new one after I discovered that my  old scale was weighing "light." It always weighed light by a few pounds but those few pounds became 25...that's right. My old scale was off by 25 pounds. For an entire year  I thought I was 25 pounds lighter than I  actually was... That misinformation made me okay with my wieght because I thought I was just a few pounds overweight instead of a lot of pounds overweight. It's amazing what we see in the mirror when we think we are one weight rather than reality.

Since I was 14 years old I have gotten on the scale religiously every morning and sometimes throughout the day. I'm actually very glad I have done this because it has helped me understand how my body responds to certain foods. When you weigh yourself every day and are accountable for what you are eating and the scale still goes up.... it's sending you a message.

Here's what I know, jumping on the scale every day will not help you lose weight. If the scale is up on a certain day, it somehow does not translate into healthier eating that day.

But what it has done is provide me with a lot of data that I can now use to try to make eduated decisions about my eating habits.  Without the regular weigh ins I 'm not so sure that I would be confident that my weight problem had less to do with will power and more to do with a problem with carbs.

But sharing my weight? no thank you. Sharing my weight loss? That's much easier to talk about.

 

 

elana Blogher Contributing Editor,Business&Careers FunnyBusiness

 

14?

That is the kind of thing that freaks me out.

My big kids never had a scale growing up. When TW and I moved in, she brought a scale and I made her hide it away where nobody could see it - especially the children. The scale is still hidden away but every now and then it makes its way out into plain sight (in the laundry room) and when I notice it, I hide it away again.

The folks who are overweight around here know that they are overweight, they don't need the scale to point it out to them. And those who are underweight, know the same thing. I'm so anti scale. But, I wouldn't be if I knew the people stepping onto it could do so without letting the numbers hurt them.

 

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings