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So I’ve been a ‘follower’ of The Secret now for
about 7 months and I happened to stumble across it when I was a bit ‘down in
the dumps’ about my love life, or lack of it!
I was channel flipping and I stopped on ABC, Oprah was on, and that’s
how I was introduced to The Secret. On
this episode, I had learned about writing list for the things that you wanted including
writing a love list. You had better
believe that on that very night, I went out and bought The Secret book, companion
journal, and the current O magazine issue which fully described how to write a
love list. When I got home, I began
writing my, ‘My Man,’ list. I wrote
that he had to be funny, genuinely kind, have dreams, be able to return calls
(or texts), be intelligent, etc. I just
wrote out my dream guy. The list wasn’t
silly either. I didn’t write that he
had to have a Mercedes or live in a mansion, I was on a mission for substance
in a man, not a man who could only take me on some really good shopping sprees
(not that I’d complain if he could).
Sure enough, about 3 days after my Secret discovery, I meet a guy online
that would become my new boyfriend and I was so very happy… Well, we lasted 4 months and I shouldn’t
have even had it go that far. About a month
into it, I had noticed that he wasn’t the ‘sweet’ guy he had presented himself
to be. I was always going to see him,
never the other way around, I did the contacting between us, I did this
and I did, that. There was so
much me doing that it was pretty much as if I was in a relationship, and
this guy wasn’t. Every time we’d argue,
I’d go over the love list that I had written, because with him, I had believed
that I had found this guy that I had described on my list. I would go over it and check off the things
that he was on that list. I’d
think about the good times that we had, the times he’d make me laugh, the times
that he could be romantic, I’d think about every positive in the relationship
that I could possible think of because that’s what The Secret had instructed me
to do, to focus on the good of my partner and therefore, I’d receive more of
that good. So that’s what I kept doing,
thinking of the good. I prayed for more
of the good and I was very thankful for the good that I saw. As time went by and with each new argument,
I’d look over that list, and every time, I saw that this person I was with,
well, I was checking off less of the things that he was and I came to
realize that he was probably 2 things, if that, on that list. He in fact, was NOT the man that I had
created on paper 4 months back. Our
relationship ended 2 months ago (and the reason it finally did end if for
another post!) and it was so freeing to cut the ball and chain that was him. But I was a bit disappointed that the relationship
didn’t pan out. I mean, I followed The
Secret, at least as best as I knew how, I even wrote my ‘My Man,’ list and I
just knew, I just felt, that I had found the guy that God, that The Secret, had
brought to me. I don’t know, maybe I
overlooked a step? Maybe I didn’t
believe enough? I’m not really
sure. I’ve done a new list since then
though, a revised one. Maybe I’ll get
the guy that’s on this one. I think I
like the guy that I’ve created with this list better anyway…
