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"Is Your Daughter Sensitive?"

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[Editor's Note: We want our children to grow into compassionate human beings who are sensitive to other peoples' experiences and needs. Right? Capital Mom shared an exchange she had with her daughter's kindergarten teacher that I understand all too well. It's a "bad thing" to be "sensitive" according to some schools of thought. She shares why she wants her daughter to remain the way she is now. -Jenna]

Sensitive:

Sensitive childIs she particularly sensitive? the kindergarten teacher asks me over the phone as we discuss the girl’s loud and lengthy crying bout on the first day of school. I freeze for a moment as I walk down the hallway. The question, posed out of concern and a desire to better understand her new student, was asked kindly. But I still hear a sneer.

Sensitive. Can you hear it too?

No, I say calmly, no. She just has trouble adjusting to new situations. That’s all.

The conversation ends but I don’t stop thinking about it. Could she be? Is she? Please no.

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spiritualmom 6 pts

I am an HSP (highly sensitive person) and so is my oldest daughter. Placing a judgement on a person's neurological bent is a missed opportunity to learn (I'll restrain myself about what else I'd like to say!). There are some down sides to being this way, the only one I can think of right now is having to deal with the 'eye rollers'.

People do not fit in boxes and neither do our sensitivities. I have abilities with people's energies as a result of being an HSP and work in the field of reflexology and energy work. We are all unique, we are all different. The more people learn and grow (and educate themselves), the more we will learn to be compassionate about people's differences through whatever spectrum we may be viewing the world.

I have learned to say 'thank you' when people tell me I'm 'too sensitive'. I notice more about people, the environment and energies surrounding us than most folk do and it comes in very useful. Shift your filters, force the sort and awaken to new possibilities in the life experience. There is much more to life than fitting in boxes and following rules.

maranda 9 pts

Being sensitive is not a bad thing! Many people - adults included - are very sensitive. It's one of the great things about being human. And I would rather have my kids be overly sensitive than overly insensitive.At age 5, crying is still a pretty reasonable reaction to processing her emotions. If the crying is bothering *her* you can work with her to find other ways to deal with her feelings. If it's overly disruptive to the other kids, the teacher needs to find a way to deal with that. If it's only bothering the teacher, then... well, not to sound insensitive, but that's too bad (<-- tongue in cheek, but really part of teaching kindergarten is dealing with 5 year olds).

Savyna 6 pts

um the girl is 5 years old...why is it a big deal if she is crying? she's young and is expressing her emotions in the most purest way that she can. If she feels sad or hurt from something that happened on the playground or whatever and she cried because of it, it's a normal reaction. I was deemed a particularly sensitive child and am still a very sensitive person but now I don't cry as much (or at least try not to when Im outside in public...even though the tears do well up).

Capital Mom 5 pts

Savyna Thanks for your comment.

I understand that a crying kid can make it harder for a teacher to teach, but I agree with you, she's a kid and is trying to process her feelings the best way she can. Her teacher this year has actually been great and very supportive. Her teacher last year was not and I felt the pressure/ balme to make the crying stop.

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Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima
Zulmara Maria Teixeira de Lima

I am totally happy with my sensitive daughter...and my sensitive son...

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There's "sensitive" and there is super sensitive as in gifted (Dabrowski). Both have their pitfalls clearly, but are very different in origin and depending how they are dealt with it can become an asset or a hindrance.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

Woooooow. Some people are so nasty.

Trudy Soucoup
Trudy Soucoup

Heck - my son's sensitive and I am OK with that. We have feelings and they shouldn't be tromped on when we are children!

Angie Rapids
Angie Rapids

When I read sensitive I instantly think 'cry baby'. Which word is preferable to use? I don't care to be around any child of any age who cries at the drop of a hat over every little thing that doesn't suit them or go their way.