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Please Don't Be Offended: This Is How We Get Through Disasters in the South

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Driving along the Gulf Coast this morning, the oil spill never far from mind, Coldplay’s “Trouble” came on the radio.  BP should license that song for their earnest apology ads.

"Oh no, I see,
A spider web is tangled up with me,
And I lost my head,
The thought of all the stupid things I'd said.

Oh no, what's this?
A spider web, and I'm caught in the middle,
So I turn to run,
The thought of all the stupid things I've done."

Complete with unassuming British accent, it’s really quite perfect.   Plaintive pleas for forgiveness for all of the trouble they’ve caused, the sticky SpiderWebweb in which they’ve caught themselves and us.  They didn’t mean it, don’t you see?

Projecting BP onto Coldplay’s melancholy makes me feel almost sympathetic to the corporate giant’s plight.  As a Gulf Coast resident, I claim the right to forgive them.  I want this oil spill to get fixed, by them, in a hurry.  Yes.  I am armed to the hilt with hope that the oil spill will not wreak the long-term damage that we have every reason to believe will be wrought.  And then I’d like to move on.

Make us whole.  Then can we please share a stiff drink and put this behind us?

I am armed to the hilt with denial.  Perhaps.

I am writing this article from a coffee shop on the shore of Mobile Bay in Alabama.  We are on vacation, an effortless hour east of our home in Gulfport, Mississippi.  The kids and I are spending the month of July at a beach house, conveniently toting ourselves back and forth across the Gulf Coast as needs arise for tending.  An indulgent luxury, to be sure, as we don’t have an abundance of money to throw around. 

But who needs money for a Gulf Coast vacation these days?  Never one to let a good disaster go unexploited, record high vacancy rates and a mind for negotiation are this frugal traveler’s best friends.  A month at a beach house?  Honey, we are just short of seeing signs crying “FREE Beach House with purchase of a Large Sweet Tea!”

In other words, “Come on down, ya’ll!  The water’s fine… -ish.”

 

Please do not let my impudent attitude offend you.  This is how we get through disasters in the South.  I didn’t put on 20 pounds after Hurricane Katrina because I was sitting around munching junk on the couch.  Gulf Coast locals get together and make the most of a bad situation.  Every damn time.

Mary Chapin Carpenter wasn’t far off when she said “There’s a hurricane party every time it blows.”  Although I would like to point out that it’s prudent for those parties to occur just after the hurricane, not before.  Before the storm, you should really evacuate.

My husband, Al Jordan, is a plaintiff’s attorney in Ocean Springs, Mississippi.  He was recently on one of my favorite public radio programs, The Story with Dick Gordon.  Answering questions about representing local fishermen and other parties suffering damages as a result of the oil spill, he hesitated when Dick Gordon asked him why we stayed on the Gulf Coast after losing everything in Hurricane Katrina.  Dick had been taken aback when Al mentioned, in the offhand way we’ve grown accustomed to mentioning these things, that our home was reduced to a slab of concrete in Katrina.

Dick wanted to know why we didn’t leave in the gruesome aftermath of such loss.

The unspoken suggestion we so frequently hear in our minds, “Why are these Gulf Coast residents such insistent gluttons for punishment?”

After the question was asked the second time, Al finally responded in the only way that makes sense to any of us here, "The people.  We stay because of the people.  It's the reason [my clients] aren't going to leave because their livelihood is gone."

The culture that would make it entirely reasonable for our family to become tourists on our own Gulf Coast shorelines right smack dab in the middle of this crisis?  The culture that would see a massive crawfish boil as the only acceptable way to brace for impact of the oil?  The culture that would line

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CrazyAdventuresinParenting 5 pts

Love! I ooey-gooey, sticky-faced, candy-in-the-morning-before-breakfast love this post, Megan.

~ Lisa

Crazy Adventures in Parenting ( http://www.crazyadventuresinparenting.com/ )

Blooming Marvelous 5 pts

The water here seems fine, no sheen, and we've seen manatees swimming close to the shore, so they are clearly not bothered by much right now - still, we too have only paddled at the water's edge. There are many people swimming though. We are not in the water at all now though - but this is due to accident prone 3 year old and his now sutured chin!!

Hey Jen 5 pts

I'm in the Tampa area and I go to the beach regularly in the evenings and I always see people in the water.

barnyardmama 5 pts

We vacationed in Western Florida and hit the beaches a LOT! I figure it might be a while before I get to do it again. Those dispersants do scare me though. . . so much we don't know.

Great post Megan. Why do we live here? Because we can't live anywhere else.

velveteenmind 5 pts

I'm interested to know if ya'll are going in the water much. We see people swimming in the bay every day but I can't seem to let us do much more than walk in the edge. There is no oil, to be sure, but the dispersants have me spooked.

Which, for the record, is really going to piss me off if I've wasted this entire month afraid of dispersants that won't hurt us.

Basically I'm pissed either way. So much WE DON'T KNOW!!!

Melissa Ford 5 pts

I love this post. It is like nothing I've read thus far about the spill.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her book is Navigating the Land of If ( http://thelandofif.blogspot.com/ ).

Blooming Marvelous 5 pts

standing in pristine gulf of mexico waters of the coast of Florida - Anna Maria Island - I stood at the water's edge and thought of you, and of what your area faces now, and what the rest of West Florida is sure to face soon. Vacancy signs are all over the place here, an indication I'm sure that people have been scared off, even from here thanks to BP. We had this vacation booked long before this sorry mess began - and we are enjoying it, but I am acutely aware of the impact this event has had, and continues to have just a few miles northwest of us.

velveteenmind 5 pts

Jen, this is my ideal comment in response to the complicated looney tunes web I wove above. I grew up in the Midwest, too. "Culture" wasn't exactly something that moved me.

That may explain why I embrace it so wholly here.

Though heading into another hurricane season, ask me the next time a tropical storm is headed our way if I'd rather not be dodging tornadoes.

velveteenmind 5 pts

I originally used the word "forgive" five times in this post, then thought better of it. I'm not to that point, either. Rather, I know that "destroy!" is just going to backfire. BP is already denying claims, on the heels of their glossy first round of checks that sure sounded good.

Absolutely revel in this anger. Get it all out. But then we need to be sure we are productive and don't destroy ourselves in the process.

We can always boycott BP in 30 years after all of this is (hopefully) restored and recovered. Makes you sick, right?

Megan

jennydecki 5 pts

I live in the midwest because I've lived on both coasts and it just seems safest here. I'm not a person that thrives on local culture or even knows what it looks like.

I have always, ALWAYS wondered why the hell "you people" live where you do.

I get it now. I think, if I felt anything like what you do, I'd stay too. That feeling is worth more than clean beaches and worth facing disaster for.

Ok, yeah, I sound looney tunes, but even though I don't get it - I truly wish I did.

Jen from Beyond Mom ( http://beyondmom.com )

southernfairytale 5 pts

Megan,

I. just, yes.
<3

Rachel is a southern fried Texas Belle.  She is a wee bit obsessed with food, family and photography. You can find her blogging about it all at A Southern Fairytale ( http://asouthernfairytale.com ) or on twitter

Denise 9 pts moderator

I'm from the south and you are right, this is how we get through disasters down there. You have it exactly right.

BP you have oil on your face - so busted. So, so busted.

~Denise
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Hey Jen 5 pts

It hurts, oh how it hurts. I'm from the north originally, but I came here to Florida and this is where I made my home. I'm HAPPY here. I LOVE Florida. I LOVE the gulf and I see it slowly...or maybe not so slowly being murdered by people who were ill prepared in case of disaster. How devastating for all of us, for our childrens' future, for the land and for the future of the wildlife we share this land with. I can't say it enough, how DEVASTATING.

An "oops my bad, sorry 'bout that" will not make it better for me. They've consistently screwed up and lied to us about it. Forgiveness is not in my heart right now. Will it ever be? I don't know, probably. I don't like holding grudges, but this hurt, this ANGER will take a very long time to get over.

...rambling here.

At any rate, I love your writing. :)