Setting boundaries the key to a happier and healthier life
Anytime you have family you have a little dysfunction. It's common that every family has their quarks and issues. No one is perfect and when you mix a lot of different people together it doesn't always go smoothly. But what if the problems within a family go much deeper than a difference of personality, what if the behavior and actions are destructive to the well being of your family: you, your husband, and children...what then? The problem that many face is that there are so many lines that are crossed, it's hard to know what's the last straw, especially when you are talking about ending a relationship with family. The lines get blurred, emotions are high, and at times it can be difficult to assess if you are acting out of emotion or making a rational decision. But no matter how you chalk it up you and your spouse come to the conclusion that you need to set up some boundaries. But what are boundaries and how do you go about establishing them?
Boundaries essentially are your personal property line that makes things which you are responsible for. You are responsible for your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical well being. You know what makes you who you are and what you are comfortable with. Boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish our beliefs, how we choose to worship, and what we consider to be the difference between our needs and Gods. Establishing these boundaries for ourselves is essential to have any type of healthy relationship. But what happens when loved ones and people are mowing over your boundaries? Should you say something? This is where for most of us we find ourselves in a mental debate...what will happen if I do? And ultimately very few of us like confrontation and conflict. But, it is important for you to speak up and defend your boundaries. Here is why...
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