Me, But Mostly Him

Welcome to my blog.  I’m excited to be here! ...more

Letter to My Heart: Breaking up and growing up

Hi. I guess first off I'm going to say I'm thankful for the good that has come out of the hurt that you and I went through this past fall. ...more

I haven't, really! It's just pretty much been "done, out, dead to me, and I don't want to see ...more

Reason #403,899 to Co-Parent Cooperatively

The Family Court Services Divison of the Domestic Relations Office in El Paso, Texas has established parenting classes and seminars that teach divorcing parents their rights and responsibilities, as well as how their actions impact their children. Truly, there's really only one reason you need to co-parent cooperatively: your child.  But the Division's Chief,  Rita Ruelas gets more specific about it, nothing that co-parents who "persist in hostile relationships can prompt children to have problems with development, coping skills, depression, adjustment disorders, being impulsive and poor academic performance." ...more

Put on some'll make you feel better

“Go put on some lipstick…it’ll make you feel better.”  This little piece of sage advice is the one thing that my mother has offered me when I’ve called her sharing some great tragedy (fought with friend, break up with boyfriend, fiance calls off wedding, fired from job, get sick).  I know how it sounds when I’ve told people that this is what my mother has offered me to pull me through situations.  However, as I look back …it’s really not bad as far as advice goes. ...more

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Really enjoyed your blog. I am a lipstick fiend! I would like to get your ...more

Co-Parenting Book Giveaway...only 2 days left!

Would you like to add one of the following books to your personal library: ...Custody Chaos, Personal Peace? ...The  Co-Parenting Survival Guide? ...Making Divorce Easier on Your Child? We're giving one of these or 8 other titles--winner's choice!--from our resources section.  Entering the giveaway is easy:  leave a comment, tell us what you would like to see on the site, share you co-parenting story. ...more

Ordinary girl in a not so ordinary world

So here it is, the beginning of what could possibly be the end of all self dignity and quietness of thoughts that seem to be pushing to make their way out.  I'm new to this, a blogger virgin about to pop her virtual cherry in what seems to be the newest form of self venting and discovery.  While to my family and friends I'm someone of great importance, but to you the stranger I'm just another single female trying to find out who she is.  ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: Observe Appropriate Boundaries

Periodically, we will feature one of the 10 Commandments of Co-Parenting put forth by Lynn Nelson, Public Education Director for the Institute on Race and Poverty, at the University of Minnesota. Lynn and her husband committed to co-parenting their son after their divorce. Today's featured Commandment is... Observe appropriate boundaries. ...more

Divorce Needs a Grieving Period

Many women feel totally betrayed in the process of divorce. The reasons for getting the divorce seem to become secondary to the split of assets, maybe the custody arrangements and the wrenching apart of the loyalties of adult children. Women usually come out worse on all fronts and are very emotionally damaged by the whole process. The fear and self doubt sets in. ...more

Thanks for sharing this. It's really painful to go through this process and you describe it ...more

Co-Parenting ABCs: They're Not Just Your Memories

A lot of cleaning house takes place in the aftermath of divorce, literally and figuratively.   Wedding and other photos that include your co-parent may be among the first things to be tossed on the "get rid of" pile, and understandably so.  Those pictures can serve as painful reminders of what was, and they can trigger feelings of regret, hurt, anger, and disappointment.  But before you haul out the shredder, consider this: Those  aren't just your memories.  They are shared, in part, with your children. ...more