The Most Important Question to Ask On a 1st Date

When dating with a purpose, the single most important question you should ask and be able to answer honestly on your first date is what are you looking for? It’s never too early to get your intentions out of the way and see whether they align with a new or potential partner....more
Gael Breton Thank you Gael. We really should be setting the tone for our relationship as early ...more

Our First Date

Four years ago… today.I can remember the day like it was yesterday.It was a Thursday. I could barely concentrate during the day, thinking about what I would wear and how the night would pan out.I remember racing home, jumping in the shower, blow-drying my hair and carefully setting my outfit out for very our first date....more

A Simple Way To Fall In Love

As I read Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay in the New York Time’s this weekend, I couldn’t help but find it familiar. In the essay she refers to a study by psychologist Arthur Aron that explores whether intimacy and love can be accelerated between two strangers by having them ask and answer each other a specific set of personal questions in one sitting....more

5 Tips For Your Next First Date

When a man goes on a date, he’s more likely to consider your physical appearance before any other attribute to determine if he’ll be seeing you again. The sad truth is that not only is physical appearance important to a man on a first date, it’s also one of the main things that contribute to his happiness and satisfaction in a marriage. In knowing this harsh reality, a woman must make a great first impression....more

I Was Told I Wasn't "Pretty" On A First Date

I can honestly say that I have been on some of the worst dates in the history of the world.  And, of course, I totally checked the history of the world before I made that claim to fame.  Today, I’m going to share one of my more treasured memories with you. You may want to sit down for this one.  Scratch that.  Grab your laptop, find a friggin’ bed and lay down.  Yeah, it’s that bad....more
Horrible!  I am SO glad you ended the date right then and there, instead of muddling through it ...more

'Is it still raining? I hadn't noticed.' The Bizarre World of Internet Dating

Today I am going to share a dating story with you.  Without embellishment it could fill seats at the Odean Leicester Square!I should probably point out  that I am nearer to 50 than I am to 40 and should definitely know better.....I had been on Match.com for a number of weeks with a few single dates under my belt (note I didn't say below my belt) but not much to write home (or here) about....more

"I’m Plus Sized and Never Know What to Wear on a Date"

I’m a bit overweight; I don’t want to wear any tight dresses or high heels on a date. What can I wear so I don’t look like a wannabe? Exclusive expert advice ahead: http://www.lava365.com/im-plus-sized-and-never-know-what-to-wear-on-a-date/  ...more

First Date

I remember my first date like it was yesterday, even though it was over 20 years ago.  It’s probably because it was the only first date I ever had.  I never went out with anyone else and we wound up married a little less than 2 years later....more

Dating Over 40: Why He's Not Asking You Out (Part 2)

Continuing from yesterday, it's important to make yourself memorable when you are dating. There are tons of women out there; you want to be the one he wants to know.When you follow this advice and get your story out in the right way, the guys who are good matches will take notice. They are getting to know you (sometimes) in one conversation…so make it count!   1. Get out that shiny stuff....more
This advice works well for the online dating scene as well as in real life!more

Letting Go... And Saying Hello

I wrote a piece before Halloween comparing dating to market trends and dubbing myself an expert in market research and following trends. Though I wrote this as nothing more than a mockery on my singlehood, I surprised myself by accidentally summoning a man....more